I have to agree with both of you to an extent.
I've spent 7 (8) years (so far, ongoing) in higher education with nothing to show for just so I could avoid working to an extent. I'm incapable of holding a job and this was a way to avoid it.
Now I know, this is no "true" NEET-ing, but hear me out.
Not having any income sources cripples your options, you depend on whoever you leech from and unless you live in country with neetbux, that is going to be your parents.
Your host body that you parasite on is like a golden handcuff. You are a slave to it as much as it is a slave to you.
Your lifeline comes with a set of expectations and pressures.
You aren't truly free unless you are both self-sufficient and a NEET.>>246470
If you are dependant, you aren't truly free. As you say, neets dont NEED to strive for a goal, but I believe to strive for a goal a wizard NEEDS true freedom.
Unless you are free, you can't really strive for a dream or anything since the constant dread of losing it all, meeting parental/other expectations/demands you aren't in a state of mind to be thinking of dreams, desires, wants or wishes.
All effort goes into maintenance. I personally dread doing anything remotely connected to dreaming because of the mental shackles that come with my dependant NEETdom. >You merely have to be resigned to life’s inherent badness to remain appreciative of your circumstances and wait for death with copes.
The ultimate cope your body and mind come up with is losing desires, dreams and wants, giving up on quality of life and anything for the sake of maintenance. What you say is true for those, as you pointed it out, neets with savings. They are the only ones who can comfortably Lay Down And Rot (LDAR) without having to worry about losing it all, getting kicked out, going homeless etc.
If you are dependant, every time you play a video game, read a manga, watch anime/movies whatever you enjoy, you will always have a looming dread over your head and never truly enjoy it. You may not feel it now, but it's there, it will get stronger as the day of you getting kicked out moves ever closer.
One thing that needs to be pointed out however, that once you are at the COMFORTABLE LDAR level, you will have to privilege to dream. You now have a solid baseline without obligations, demands, expectations, pressures or masks you have to wear and maintain.
You have a foundation. You have comfort and all your needs are met without effort. You can CHOOSE to LDAR and enjoy it with whatever pleasures you have, but you can also spend time on cultivating hobbies and skills that you always wanted to try, but never did out of shame. Shame of doing something truly enjoyable while feeling the day of exile drawing close.
Maybe thats just me. Maybe I'm the only one who doesn't pursue dreams or wants because I dare not do so while having other obligations I neglect. Perhaps I'm projecting. I truly feel like the key to happiness is being a NEET with a reliable baseline and savings. True freedom to pursue whatever you want without having to contemplate how it will lead to your next meal.
Working, studying or whatever else you are forced to do, drains you of everything in you.
To have true dreams and desires you first need to achieve a solid foundation, true freedom from all obligation and survival needs. Once you have that, I doubt you will want to LDAR. Perhaps for a month, two or three, but you will find your true dreams through freedom.
The divine spark in us all can't shine without freedom.