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How do I stop thinking about my lost years?

I spent the last years on imageboards, video games, tv, random youtube videos and got 0 skills or life experience.

With 31 people my age who either have a job or skills already got 10+ years of experience in the said thing. So I feel hopelessly behind and every time I want to learn something I start kicking myself for not doing it sooner when I had better conditions. My life was pretty comfy compared to now 10 years ago and I feel terrible wasting it. Now I can't say I'm ~finding myself~ anymore, I get less financial support and my health is getting worse and past 30+ the odds of random health issues increase on top of the constant regret over wasted time.

I know the robotic answer is that I can't change the past so it's pointless to think about but how can I really make peace with it mentally instead of trying to suppress these negative emotions with logic?


Start doing and learning thins now so you don't feel how you feel about your past as you do in the future about your now.


I also started getting worried by age when I was approaching 30 without any skills. It just becomes clear that most likely no big thing will happen and that you probably won't be financially successful and not going far.

I was also caught in the 'finding myself' loop but thats just a cope to not feel bad about not having a life and no clue about stuff.

If there is anything you like doing or if you want to learn something new then do it. Try to neet for as long as possible but if you have any good idea try to pursue it and even if it won't turn out as you think you will still learn skills from that.

Basically just try to put the body and mind you have now to work as good as you can without deluding yourself with imaginations of how the future could or should be, detach yourself from the outcome. Also dont delude yourself into thinking that you will become a different person any time now because once you are past 25 it's clear that you most likely won't be changing a lot of things about your personality.

Avoid certain things that subconsciously make you depressed like social media, porn, certain youtube videos, normie culture etc. and try adjust your lifestyle to a more stoic one. It's all about accepting facts and using the remaining time and body/mind you have in a productive way while trying to avoid having any good or bad imaginations as much as possible.


Buy bitcoin. Simple as.


Assuming you don't commit suicide, next year you will be 32. The other year will be 33. That will definitely happen, no doubt. So, right now it's you choice to be 32, 33, etc without skills or start learning something now. As a matter of fact, I'm 31 and I decided to learn how to play the soprano recorder. I bought one, downloaded a good book to learn and I'm studying it every day. It's not a skill that will get me a job, but it's knowing how to play a musical instrument is something that I always wanted to learn. I prefer to be 32 yo knowing how to play, even a beginners level, a recorder than being 32 yo still not knowing any.


study Ricardo's principle of comparative advantage.

The only skill that matters is what you are least bad at. Even if there is some superchad who can do every single thing better than you, it's a waste of his time and talent for him to do everything. So there is a lot you are comparatively better at him at.


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give up, get fat


Scamcoins should fuggin die

First of all is getting a car


If you have no skills you could try becoming an apprentice in a field where they have an apprentice, journeymen, master type thing. They will hire you to do menial tasks and slowly teach you how their jobs work and eventually with time you will become an actual plumber or electrician or whatever. Just pick some random thing as soon as you in need of money.


Either learn a trade or go back to school. There aren't any shortcuts to getting a good job, and the longer you wait the harder it will be. Ageism is real and it will screw you over.


I've tried this but the problem is that all the electrican's, plumbers, etc expect to have a total normalfag in the van with them to chat to at smoko. I get called in to do casual work, I smash it out better than most, I'm affable and skilled, but when it comes down to it, their friend at the rugby club is the guy they want to spend every day with.

Not complaining because I totally get it, but there's those sorts of social barriers that inhibit people for the trades.


Gonna repost it >>274360
here. I'm in the same boat. Except I don't regret "wasting" those years. But I do regret wasting my 20s.


Dude, it's not THAT bad. Temp agencies exist for middle-aged men with no skill/education. They literally get paid to throw you at jobs. You can start now, die, or rot and experience things get much worse for you, my friend. I mean this in good-heart.

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