/dep/ - Depression

you don't. if you were lucky to have a good combo of genes and nurture, you just learn to not give a fuck. otherwise you just watch yourself rot from within

I got on the bus a few weeks ago and I lost my balance when it started accelerating and I sat down on an asian succubus's lap, don't know why I always get these cringe moments

>>308815
Well i give a fuck, and thinking about it is killing me from the inside. Its difficult not to have it on my mind constantly, knowing what i had before and knowing what i wont have in the future
>>308818
That sort of stuff happens, that specific case wasnt too severe. Hell, if your attractive enough it might even have been something positive.

just move somewhere else.

>>308822
The answer is often move yet I assume people are too poor to do so.

I used to move and change jobs every year and that cleaned the slate.

Lately I just make it my personality: unreliable goof.

>>308815
Lately, I've been thinking more and more about how many people take the concept of genetic determinism too rigidly. Perhaps this is true of any form of determinism in general — the fact that a significant part (or everything) of this life is predetermined by factors beyond your control shouldn't really impact your experience as a subject. Essentially, your "awareness" is just one of a billion factors in how you make decisions. Or, more accurately, how you don't make them. Whether it's a belief in fate, divine design, shitty genes, or existence in the matrix: the idea of ​​simply lying down and refusing to try anything is only valid if you yourself have engineered this deterministic reality, with all its variables. Otherwise, it's absurd.

>>308840
>shouldn't really impact your experience as a subject
Yet it does

>>308841
How? If everything is predetermined, then it is predetermined regardless of your awareness. Conversely, whether you make decisions based on awareness or not is irrelevant, since those decisions are already predetermined by many other factors.

The essence will remain the same, only the perception will change slightly.

>>308840
you don't know what determinism is. pure intellect is the only thing naturally free from determinism, but human intellect is pathetic and besides isn't even the decision maker. everything outside intellect is unlikely to have enough randomness to be considered indeterministic. as such vast majority of your decisions are predictable and your live is overall predetermined by your genes and early childhood.

>>308843
I don't really deny any of this. And genes do play a significant role, including in the development of temperament and reactions to traumatic social experiences, as in the OP. But how accurately can you predict something like this? Even if you're neurotic, you can certainly learn to cope with this. And you're unlikely to predict the success of the learning until you try.
Genetic testing can reveal a lot, but we still can't predict someone's fate 100%. Moreover, genes reveal more about predispositions.

Has anything really bad happened to any of you? Can you tell?
Because it happened to me. Probably the worst one possible.

>>308846
You first.

>>308846
>Probably the worst one possible.
i doubt it, but tell me

>>308844
>we still can't predict someone's fate 100
you don't need 100%, 98% is enough. the other 2% account for some physics shenanigans that aren't predictable mathematically, such as a car starting to skid and hitting you to death (the good outcome).

>>308814
i know its easier said than done, but moving to a different state and changing your phone number/deleting social media if you have it absolutely works

I was a local meme posted all over the internet in my country/town.

The jist of it was me walking into establishments asking for a job whilst my father was standing at the doorway watching me. He's frowning, arms crossed. Track pants low enough exposing his ass crack. He's the typical boomer who has no awareness around him. He'd wear mismatched socks, ass crack showing. Sometimes he wears mega short shorts which was popular in my country for men back in the day for some reason. The issue is when he sits down on a chair his cock and balls and exposed and dangling out. Photos have been posted online. People treated me like some freakshow because of it. Luckily 10+ years later it's mostly memory holed. But holy shit I was ready to kill myself over that. People would drive by our house at night and shout insults at us. Imagine being in bed at 2am trying to get comfy and you hear "SHOW US YOU CRACK AND BALLS".

Ropefuel.

>>309517
Sorry to hear your dad is a tard, but maybe he's a cuck too

read about all the couped rulers and criminals who underwent extreme humiliation and how they or their families dealt with it

>>309519
he is a tard 100%, he would be a cuck too if my mom wasn't also a bedridden tard. Runs deep in the family, literally 20+ men are cucks. only one that isn't a cuck is a criminal but he pimped his own mother out to gangs, so maybe some variety of cuck? Idk either wayy fucking shit life huh?

Diddy was arrested, accused of various crimes, had a video of him beating his ex leaked online, people learned that he has a cuckhold kink, he was found guilty of paying male prostitutes and on top of that people learned that he has a small penis. DJ Vlad said it's about 3 inches. I saw the video, but I can't say for sure.

He's a multimillionaire. That helps with public humiliation and destroyed reputation. Being rich.

>>309651
hes black

>>309655
how do you know?

It's almost impossible to have a destroyed reputation in today's world. People are too damn distracted to keep track of everyone's scandals. Just move somewhere else and people who know whatever you're worried about won't know. Only way that doesn't work is if you're famous, and if you're famous you don't need to worry about reputation even more. Famous people can get away with so much shit and people will still worship them. You just can't also be ugly or else you end up getting harvey winesteined. He could have kept doing what he was doing if he just lost 40 pounds.

>>308814
>How do you deal with extreme public humiliation and a destroyed reputation? Shits suicide fuel

social status is an illusory game. you are somewhat pre-programmed to mind being considered of lower social status but the world in which this cultural system made sense has not been existing for hundreds/thousands of years. this is industrial mass consumerist cattle dystopia and you don't have to mind being unpopular or lonely because those states merely represent the opinions of fools and your only concern should be not to be one of the fools. if you ever felt being popular and in high demand, you'd hate it so much that you would not lament the absence of it. most people don't know how lucky they are never to have been popular because it would invalidate their entire social framework. they would hate it so much, they'd wonder why they ever cared about anyone if this is what results from it.