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 No.211617[View All]

Did your social anxiety ever get better?

The main reason we are wizards. As kids they thought we would grow out of it. But did it ever get better for you?

it is a legit curse that i thrash against every day. But it never leaves me. I did martial arts, sports, had jobs where i basically just was just barely able to act normal enough to not break down. Anyone could take advantage of me, ruin my week with an insult and i know it and it tortures me everyday. I often wonder what faculty actually controls it. But i never find answers. I am convinced i am oppressed by god or some other universal powers that be like nature. It's ruined my life.
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 No.213697

7.5mg olanzapine do the trick, good stuff, shame can make you gain some weight if you don't pay attention.

 No.213759

it doesn't really get better as much as you just don't care anymore.

 No.213760

>>213693
is your shift broken
why Do you place capitals in Middle of a sentence

 No.213787

>>213760

Are you serious? This is what you chose to comment on? Its My autocorrect. I'm not a native speaker so it does what it does

 No.213789

>>213787
Next time type it on a computer, please.

 No.213793

>>213787
Just ignore that stinker

 No.213796

>>213787
Why are you angry? I just asked out of pure curiosity.

 No.216099

I used to have social anxiety but nowadays I've reached a point where I have extremely thick skin and have practically zero social inhibition.

 No.216109

>>211617
>>213787
>normalfag thread
>smartphone posting
Wizardchan 2024

 No.216140

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>>211617
>Did your social anxiety ever get better?
Yes it did, in ways I once thought were inconceivable. It never truly goes away, especially if your parents are neurotic wrecks, but it can absolutely get better, 100 percent. What helped me the most was being around different environments like jobs where I got to interact with a variety of people. It was through a lot of those interactions were I came to conclusion most people really aren't worth so much space in your head, especially when they reveal the type of "people" they really are during their moments of compromise.

Those negative experiences have instilled a thin layer of scorn towards every person by default and with that attitude, my feelings towards what they may think of me became less and less intrusive. I would imagine that mindset would only be possible through actual life experiences proving that being the case unless you are some seriously detached edgelord. You also get older and naturally you find more pressing matters to occupy your mind.

Or at least that should be happening. If you are pushing actual wizardhood, god forbid older, and you still have what can be formally diagnosed as catastrophic anxiety, you need to get unhooked off this device, rummage through your room for some old mp3 player or tablet, and download at least these resources to start working through this
https://archive.org/details/Dr.ThomasA.RichardsOvercomingSocialAnxietyStepByStep
https://archive.org/stream/Dr.ThomasA.RichardsOvercomingSocialAnxietyStepByStep/Dr.%20Thomas%20A.%20Richards%20%2C%20Overcoming%20Social%20Anxiety-handouts%20%2C%20%D9%85%D8%AC%D9%84%D8%A9%20%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%A7%D8%A8%D8%AA%D8%B3%D8%A7%D9%85%D8%A9_djvu.txt
Unless you are cute or handsome, people aren't even going to hide the scorn and disgust they have for you if you are obviously, visibly neurotic well into adulthood. It's truly a dehumanizing experience.
>>211679
This was literally me lol. I couldn't even send friend requests to people because I'd have an anxiety attack. I barely even got any. Now I'm the one who gets followed or friended and occasionally I'll just think, "huh, this was it huh, wow…"

Sturgeon's law applies to humanity but that shouldn't the sole reason you should be miserable. There are actually good people out there, please, please do not forget that. Unfortunately, with how society and the world is heading, they will only become much harder to come across.

 No.216142

>>211630
This applies to me as well. But I used to have social anxiety years ago.

 No.216150

>>216140
dude too long, just paste the instructions and thats it

 No.216152

>>211617
It gets better. Life forces you into situations where you have to work with other people and deal with your anxiety. My last rank up was getting more comfortable with calling on the phone. Had to call a reality agent to get myself some place to rent, had to call with a lot of HR employees to at least get an opportunity to talk to team leaders and managers. All because my narcisistic, manipulative, chronic liar sociopath father kicked me out of the house. Had a few rough weeks which forced me to get out of my bubble and go the normie way since neetbux are not an option in my country. Still not all is settled and I have to do much more work, but to answer your question, yes, social anxiety gets better. Also what helped me was pulling a knife on a dude who almost assaulted me, it gave me feelings of power and confidence. Made me realise that even pulling a knife out in broad daylight in front of people won't get me into trouble. If that won't get me into trouble, then why would stuttering in a conversation over a phone matter? It doesn't.

 No.216167

>>213343
I bet getting ripped would help, but I'm too low discipline. I always make a little progress but end up losing steam.

 No.216179

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im 26 years old and i really don't care about socialising or succubi.
i don't know if im autistic or something but i can't understand why non-normie people want to socialise that much.

i can be happy just me and my computer, it always has been like that for me.
it doesn't bother but i want to know why im like this.

 No.216182

No. I'm in my 30s and it never got better. I have tried forcing myself to do my own exposure therapy but it doesnt work. For example for years ive gone to the grocery store 2-3 times a week but every time i feel like im dying, even though i successfully get through it. For me it's probably undiagnosed autism and overstimulation.

 No.216187

>>216182
Exposure therapy is a reddit meme in my experience. I went to college and worked a wagie job for years. How much exposure do you need before you can safely call exposure therapy bunk?

 No.216191

>>216182
>>216187
How is your personal, honest-to-god opinion of yourself?

 No.216193

>>216191
I wrote 216182. On a rational level I have completely accepted myself. I dont fit into this modern society at all, but I don't blame myself for that. My issues are the product of evolutionary biology and a changing world. From another angle, I think modern society is sick; "it is no measure of health to be adapted to a profoundly sick society" and so on. On a subconscious level of course there are consequences of having social biology and being an outcast, so I do have moments where i feel like i lower-caste freak, but i remind myself that is it is a reflex.

 No.216194

>>216182
>No. I'm in my 30s and it never got better. I have tried forcing myself to do my own exposure therapy but it doesnt work. For example for years ive gone to the grocery store 2-3 times a week but every time i feel like im dying, even though i successfully get through it. For me it's probably undiagnosed autism and overstimulation
This has been my experience as well. I went and tried to get more exposure to the world by going outside more but I was never able to really improve and just had days that went better than others but overall it was the same agony.

>>216187
I'm coming to the same conclusion because exposure therapy would only make sense if the issues solely come from being isolated but usually isolation is already something caused by other things. If youre a normie who happened to be isolated for some time then it might help to get exposure therapy to get back on your feet but it seems like a meme indeed.

 No.216215

Yea, its very simple. eventually you realize that humans aren't shit, theres nothing to be anxious about. Its almost funny. The avergae person is just a copy cat slave, they take a shit just like anyone else. No one is special. once you realize this, the anxiety goes away.I can go anywhere and talk to anyone and not gtive a single fuck.

 No.216216

>>216215
Nowadays I'm confused why people even haev social anxiety they really care that much about the opinion of some weird normie who has a million issues themselves? Seriously do a brain dive and realize humans aren't shit and theres no need to ahve any anxiety, everyone has tons of problems themselves.

 No.216217

>>211630
Same, they are like brainwashed robots to me.

 No.216220

I always wanted to get better at socializing and have friends but eventually I've learnt that this craving is just a mental issue caused by my upbringing and weird teen years. Its best to just not care about socializing at all and not get stressed out over it. Most interactions aren't as special as they seem and there is hardly anything to gain or lose from it anyway. Even if you have friends, they come and go and you're never doing anything meaningful anyway.

Another important thing to keep in mind is that socializing and people lose their importance if you find purpose in something. I think a man is just suppossed to find purpose in things he pursues, it's better to go full autism mode and be confident about it than worrying about social stuff.

 No.216287

>>211617
i have become a public school teacher to fight that, the anxiety is simply replaced with anger, the kind that want to destroy the entirety of the world
i know this is edgy, but i swear i am being truthful and looking for ways to address this. there is a satanic lion within me roaring to destroy everything. i miss the times when i was zen

 No.216288

>>216287
I've considered teaching as the only way to make a career talking about my fav topics.

whats it like as a wiz?

 No.216290

>>216288
man i had a lengthy, detailed post and the power just went out, so i have lost all that i had written. the tldr was, teachers aren't trusted and their input are irrelevant, smug pedagogues are shallow creatures and will blame you for everything and parents effectively abandoned the well being and education of their children who are only at school because they are forced to, the government expects you to teach them something useful but that is harder than you think due to both lack of resources to satisfy that demand and resource competition with other teachers who are just as shallow as the smug pedagogues who absolutely hates math and the hard sciences (that is why they are pedagogues in the first place). since you are in direct contact with them you get hit by this huge snowball of BS pretty hard.

but if you don't care about their learning/interest, the criticism, and love to simply present something, then i can't think of a reason why you would regret it. just keep in mind that tech loves to fail during class and the pressure of time is what makes most teachers brainlets. we aren't always that dumb, we are simply hyper focused in the subject which shutdowns the rest of our brain

 No.216291

>>216290
would becoming a teacher because you are an aspie who likes to monologue about your fav topic work out?

 No.216292

>>216291
there are two issues that i have faced during my first to second year of teaching, the first was interruption, you can simply remind students to not interrupt while you are lecturing but they can call you for questions during tasks in class, which i always do anyway because AI is actually good now, so homework is unfeasible because they will cheat. they always understand the interruption part, just tell them to note whatever is their request and to call you by the end of the explanation.

the second is crushing over those beautiful, gorgeous seniors which you WILL idealize in your first years as a teacher and it will take a while to spot their defects to the point you lose attraction to them. a few of them WILL hit on you and they always comes from broken homes. sometimes students begins joking around you but since you are a somewhat a powerful force, they know better than to bully you, usually. the one exception i have seen that led one female teacher to tears was a child diagnosed with antisocial disorder.

if you can handle both of these scenarions that will happen in class, you are fit to be a teacher imo. if you go for the hard sciences, be the ultimate machine when it comes to handling one stop equations in case you decide to be a physics teacher like me. highschoolers does NOT know those despite studying them and that is the fault of an overly merciful school system, fixing that is beyond your powers so just accept it and navigate through the snowball of issues.

 No.216293

>>216292
yeah most wiz talk about teaching as the worst job in the world for wiz, especially with social anxiety, but it doesnt sound too bad from what you said.

 No.216294

>>216293
it can be especially bad in the beginning and give you a bit of anxiety during the weekends because you need to prepare for those classes, otherwise yes, it is overblown and the pay is low if you go private, since nobody really cares about education to begin with, we all want that meme paper to break through the bureaucracy

 No.216296

>>216287
It's funny, I sometimes entertain ideas of substitute teaching because it's the one job that is always listed, always hiring, has good benefits, decent pay, and all you need to do to qualify for it is pass some tests, but I am laughably unable to handle the anxiety. I can't even handle normal human interactions, how could I handle being the center of attention and being in charge of an entire class? Honestly it's weird, on one level I feel like I don't give a fuck and actually my anxiety shouldn't be that bad, but actually it really is. It's hard to explain the difference in how I think I should feel based on my mind state and how I actually feel in practice.

 No.216297

>>216296
substitute teaching seems like where all my fears of regular teaching would definitely come true, as the kids have no respect or fear of you, and you have 0 power over them

 No.216298

>>216297
I was just remembering this really mean old grey haired sub named Mrs.Leddy in 2nd grade, and she accused me of throwing macaroni around, and put me at the bad table. But Ralph spoke up and turned himself in.

When I search my life memories, and this is one of the only examples of peers showing kindness to me, its more useful than if it was 0. if it was 0, it might just be self-pity or a refusal to acknowledge or bias. But the fact that there are a handful examples of kindness, shows they made a big impact on me when it did happen. but i can only count it on 1 hand in a lifetime.

 No.216299

>>216296
at the risk of breaking the rules, i can't recommend getting over this anxiety enough, you quality of life will improve tenfold because you won't fear groids anymore, most of my issues stemmed from overestimating the abilities of students but they are actually dumb as a brick, nobody gets to highschool knowing one step equations

unironically pretend to be lecturing alone, acquire a whiteboard and some ink if you have the means to and enjoy autisming for yourself. it is also the most effective way to never forget a subject if you are seeking to study something. the first few months will be filled with doubts and questions but you have to power through the lecture ignoring those questions. eventually they all disappear, popping out once in a while and that is that, people seems to call that impostor's syndrome and then fall in a state of guilt because we think we should have studied more. just power through the script (if any) despite the questions in your head

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>>211617
That's the problem. You always try to stop being who you are instead of facing the shame and the pressure all the way long.

>The main reason we are wizards

Sorry about you being so brainwashed.

>Ruin my day with an insult

Ever insulted back, ever got ready for a fight whenever those cucks be wishing you to pay for giving them their well deserved spank? that's the way. Otherwise your mind will keep itself sunk as it is now.

START LEVELING, WIZARD. FUCK NPCS. TRASH THEM IF YOU HAVE TO.

 No.217179

>>211617
Stop acting like a tryhard and push your ´weirdness upfront. Harm others with it if necessary, until you relax

 No.217180

anxiety is linked to elevated serotonin levels, possibly glutamate issues as well. Change your diet to include less carbs

 No.217190

>>217180
Serotonine is also linked to a certain amino acid, worth looking into as well.

 No.217191

>>217190
it's the gut microbiome, that's where the majority of nt's come from and where the "chemical imbalances" could actually theoretically start

 No.217192

>>217190
>>217180
>>217191
>According to Harvard researcher Datis Kharrazian, PhD, DHSc, author of Why Isn’t My Brain Working?, mild symptoms of too much serotonin include:
>Shyness
>feeling “not good enough”
>desiring, yet fearing, social interactions
>nervousness
>being easily upset by criticism
>lack of motivation
https://bebrainfit.com/too-much-serotonin/
>Antidepressants: The Top Cause of Excessive Serotonin
>Methylation: the MTHFR gene… leads to a tendency to overproduce serotonin, causing an excess amount in the brain.
It's ironic isn't it. Shy people get hooked up to serotonin drugs, which only makes it worse.

 No.217207

>>211617
My social anxiety comes from my ugliness and I'm not getting any prettier so no, it didn't got better for me.

 No.217379

>>211617
I solved by backlashing it into those who caused it. Intentional or not.

Anxiety comes via fear. What do you fear? Visualize it, and know what your mind tells you you are unprotected before.

 No.217380

>>213321
>Tried masking
Of course it didnt work
>Schizo
It is not done that way at all. You need to expand, not to contract. Do you even know what an omicron male is? If you work according to rules that are against your nature, no wonder you end up feeling shit. We are so uneducated…

 No.217382

>>217380
anxiety is an easily, easily treated condition without resorting to benzos. I've already given you lot enough pointers to know where to look up the cures for this stuff. It's related to glutamate transmission, serotonin dominance. You can cut glutamate without amping gaba, and shifting away from sero is pretty easy.

Anyways early pass on this issue is just do SJ's wort. MAO inhibitor, if you take Ibuptrofen you can cut acute glutamate excess as well. I believe NAC helps with that issue as well?

 No.217401

>>217382
>anxiety is an easily, easily treated condition
I laughed

 No.217414

>>217401
He is just meaning for his specific example. Dont take it wholly

 No.217420

Actually, anxiety is unironically easily treated condition when it's not a mental illness, but just your prejudices/inexperience/fixations/delusions. Just slamming the facts in your face cures it most of the time and quickly. But if your anxiety is a [i]medical condition, my wiz, I'm sorry for you.

 No.217421

>>217420
I see people talking about cures for it all the time. It isn't one I've particularly looked into but don't consider it a major illness

 No.217433

Anxiety is simply.

The price to pay for knowledge of the future.

Neuroticism today is I'm finding largely mental exhaustion.


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