No.223091
Hi I'm a wizard with agoraphobia, semi neet, I just study English.
Psychology don't help me, parents are sick of me, I'm not depressed because I learned to deal with this thanks to Christianity.
I have an strong regression and I am very exhaust.
I thinking in use mental health drugs, but the problem is I'm very addictive person, I don't want any addiction in my life. I hate psychology, i don't have any another psychological problem, just agoraphobia.
I can accept all bad things and manage it, but agoraphobia is hard.
I really don't know what to do. I'm using porn for deal with this, i know is a sin but…
I'm not addicted to porn, I just want to beat agoraphobia.
Help Wizards, psychologist don't help me.
No.223099
>>223091If you have to do things outside of the house, my advice would be very slow self guided exposure therapy. In very short spans expose yourself to increasingly nerve wracking environments. I do mean very slowly. It could take months or years but your ability to cope will improve.
No.223140
>>223091if you have a sibling, go together to social gatherings, it can be going to the beach or the mall, am not asking you to go to parties or whatever.
No.223160
Psychiatric medication can help.
No.223176
Psychology isn't "psychologists" I like psychology but do not really like any psychologists.
Write in depth all your issues/history/symptoms and put it in an LLM like a claude project or grok deep research.
Ask it to find specific studies that have been done to improve your symptoms and what techniques helped and find those and start doing them.
There's the obvious lifestyle stuff (makes a big difference), meditation, I haven't lookd as much into agoraphobia. (It's distinct from social anxiety/AVPD which I know more about) Agoraphobia is a subset of panic disorders but like I said.
Just write something as in depth as you can about yourself, your issues then ask for specific actionable steps known to help with it.
No.223179
>>223177Funny pic, except for the last part. There's nothing "easy" about having a family or kid if you're a scroller who's been stuck on imageboards 12 hours a day for decades.
No.223185
>>223179>scroller who's been stuck on imageboards 12 hours a day for decades.What causes this?
No.223186
>>223091the problem you describe OP is something I've never managed to overcome and I've just accepted its par of who I am. my life is structured around avoiding people and the outside world as much as possible. imo, my experience with treatment is this:
- the kind of meds you need to feel comfortable outside with this kind of anxiety have to be stupidly strong
- and stupidly strong means addictive (whether its benzos or ssris) – its not worth it
it might be treatable with years of psychotherapy. if it means anything when i was forced to participate in the world more due to having to survive in a foreign country i did things id never have imagined. then its just like… little by little you start to withdraw… until even doing small things is hard again.
maybe the frog out of water approach is best where its a do or die kinda thing. its terrifying and extremely hard at first but thats also what makes it so effective. i think small steps you will just avoid tbh.
No.223210
Benzo will make you an addicted
Antidepressants are a hit or miss, depends a lot of how your body respond
Antipsychotics are the last resort
No.223211
>>223185Autism, neurodivergency, schizophrenia, physical disability or a mix of these. Pick your poison.
100,00% of wizards fall under one of these.
No.223217
>>223211I really sure I have some neurodivergency, but I'm fat and ugly, neurodivirgency steriotipe is some cute skinny boy.
I can't manage big strong sounds and some clothes make me feel so uncomfortable. Social marginalization to, I can't be a normal person.
No.223218
>>223091kill yourself kike worshipping shabbos goy faggot
No.223222
all my social related issues diminished a lot since i turned 20(im almost 30 now)
i don't know your age but it gets a lot better with time
No.223260
I am not in the same boat at all so whatever I say won't be helpful, but it's certain that there are no easy solutions that don't involve exposing yourself to a lot of discomfort. I am struggling with a different issue that also has no conventional solution.
I managed to find a book on my condition, I think that's a good place to start. I distrust psychologists generally, but guess what, nothing is stopping you from reading scientific literature on any subject. It will take more time, but it will give you a better understanding so there's no need to have an expert regurgitate it for you, especially cultlike ones like shrinks.
No.223563
>>223099This. Fear can only be conquered head on, I'd suggest pushing yourself as hard as you can, and ideally also hating your own weakness. Shame has allowed me to push overcome phobias in the past.
No.225206
>>223091sleep healthy
I used to be massively depressed, but was too afraid to tell a doctor, because… well, the idea of conscription dodging is a massive meme here.
1) Unless you are a hardcore must-be-isolated schizo, they will diagnose you with anything but a proper "depression" diagnosis
2) Being diagnosed with depressed is on par with being diagnosed with full-on "must-be-isolated schizophrenia" - no guns, no cars, no "real job", no trust etc.
context: sleep deprivation may cause depression, which, in turn, freaks up sleep routine
No.225207
>>225206and, turns out, a mug of instant coffee had 4 "cups" or more!
and my sleep was ruined due to bad sleeping place (foldable sofa as a bed, not a real comfy bed with a proper XXX$ matress)(no blackout curtains despite the ridiculously bright sun at 5 AM and such)
No.226754
>>223093Anything but committing suicide
No.226884
Read about Stan Grof. Take the practice if you can, make it yours.