>>224780Honestly? If you haven't by now, go to a few masses and see. Don't worry about the rules just yet.
Seeking God is the important part, and if you find Him there, you won't really have much of a choice but to look into the rest.
Try an Orthodox church too though before you dismiss the whole thing though if you find nothing.
I've never found much life in a Roman Catholic mass myself, just bits and pieces almost in spite of the rest of it, but I wouldn't have known that without going. But He speaks to people differently.
The rules are a complex topic. It's an attempt to use power/authority to force people to do things that are "good" for them by threatening punishment. But that defeats the purpose IMO. They are only good if you do them out of love of Christ and all the little christs around (those neighbors you're supposed to love as much as yourself), not out of fear of punishment.
I'm not sure how a Roman Catholic who is truly seeking Christ can internalize that. I guess if I could I would be one.
>>226011For the Orthodox, priests are usually married because practically speaking the priests are the closest to the world and need to guide the laity through it. You're going to be a lot better at giving advice about rebellious kids or marriage problems or whatever if you've gone through that yourself.
Monks can also be priests though, and they would be unmarried. And bishops are traditionally picked from monks. So it's really only the parish priests and laity who deal with marriage.