No.308467
no i hate everything and everyone and feel like it's absolutely justified
No.308491
even when people ruin my life, there's no real resentment.
I just start calculating how I can get them out of my life as soon as possible.
I guess if you want to remove resentment you have to learn the skill of 'moving on'?
No.308531
I've realized today a lot of BS between me and my parents can be attributed to the part we have spiraled into a lack of trust: i don't trust them to fix my stuff, they don't trust me to fix their stuff, yada-yada-on-repeat
No.308561
>But how can you banish something from your mind when it has become so fiercely ingrained?
>Have you ever managed to rid yourself of a resentment that seemed to have become embedded in your mind?
It's hard to conceptualize, but I did it. Today, I have successfully rationalized it's a small group of people who got some Nietzsche-like mindset who would emotionally ask me "aren't you a [slang term for a male]?". And that doesn't reflect the values of 95-99% of males here, it's the most difficult 1-5% who assume everyone should be as competitive as *them* and who isn't, well, "their loss".
The relief is, it's not like most people would see something sussy in my behaviour, it's just a bunch of local country bumpkin »übermenschen« who would assume I was an anomaly in their »über«/»unter« dychtomy. No wonder I want to chop anyone asking this question given how sauerkraut this mindset actually is.
The moment I rationalized it was not about me I got some powerful relief. Thanks.
>I guess if you want to remove resentment you have to learn the skill of 'moving on'?
Try taking a day off, get a nice warm bath, feel safe enough to think about random stuff. Morning bath (1-2 hr) is a great tool for letting your mind wander without the extra adrenaline