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I know this might sound off, but it's something that really bothers me.
I've done many things I regret in my life, for various different reasons, but one of the main type of memories that won't leave my head and makes me miserable is all of the times I've humiliated myself somehow, where I did something embarassing, or as it's usually called nowadays: "Cringe".
Things like throwing temper tantrums, or acting awkward and only realizing later, doing or saying something which made someone feel embarassed or even upset at me, being a sore loser, all of these things, sometimes in the middle of the night they just pop up in my head, these memories, I want to erase them.
Still, I know I can never really erase them, so I at least need to cope, how?
I've done many things I regret in my life, for various different reasons, but one of the main type of memories that won't leave my head and makes me miserable is all of the times I've humiliated myself somehow, where I did something embarassing, or as it's usually called nowadays: "Cringe".
Things like throwing temper tantrums, or acting awkward and only realizing later, doing or saying something which made someone feel embarassed or even upset at me, being a sore loser, all of these things, sometimes in the middle of the night they just pop up in my head, these memories, I want to erase them.
Still, I know I can never really erase them, so I at least need to cope, how?
>>249665
Everyone has these anons. A lot of times I've been able to cope with them by telling myself that everyone involved in the incident is thousands of miles away. But, really, I just have to live with them and over the decades have been slowly more and more able to just weather the emotional blows my brain throws at me. You get more endurance, but it never actually gets better.
Everyone has these anons. A lot of times I've been able to cope with them by telling myself that everyone involved in the incident is thousands of miles away. But, really, I just have to live with them and over the decades have been slowly more and more able to just weather the emotional blows my brain throws at me. You get more endurance, but it never actually gets better.
Every single interaction I've ever had, good or bad, has been cringe in retrospect. So I figure for me social interaction is synonymous with = cringe. Either cringe or be a complete hermit. And for the last few years I've chosen the latter.
But basically the cringe is so overwhelming, there's nothing to cringe at. It's just how I always interact.
But basically the cringe is so overwhelming, there's nothing to cringe at. It's just how I always interact.
>>249665
It's an unnecessary attachment.
No one is born being self aware and some people don't become self aware at all.
You just didn't knew better at the time.
Be glad whatever stupid shit you did/say never got recorded permanently somehow with your name on it, kids nowadays don't have that luxury.
It's an unnecessary attachment.
No one is born being self aware and some people don't become self aware at all.
You just didn't knew better at the time.
Be glad whatever stupid shit you did/say never got recorded permanently somehow with your name on it, kids nowadays don't have that luxury.
really its just spite. you have to realize that it is killed or be killed out there, and you will never have a real friend. so the only one you have to stick up for you is yourself. i realized that if i am to survive, i cant make myself an enemy. and with all these things, it really is socially relative. i have done things that are "cringe" and get ridiculed for it, but when chads or normalcattle do it, there is no adverse reaction. reflecting on this, i came to the realization that they are just trying to bring me down, and i am letting them do that. so now i never doubt myself and give 0 thought to what they say or think, what is right or wrong. there is me, and there is only me. nothing else is worth living for
>>249694
>if i am to survive, i cant make myself an enemy
Sometimes you read something that hits you like a ton of bricks and you just have to sit at process it. Holy shit dude.
>if i am to survive, i cant make myself an enemy
Sometimes you read something that hits you like a ton of bricks and you just have to sit at process it. Holy shit dude.
>>249694
Completely vilifying other people is a very dangerous thing to do. Realize that these emotions are simply an expression of your lower natures and your interpretation of the social world and your place in it. But hear this, there is nothing wrong with feeling the way you do - you literally can't help it as these are your own experiences with the world. But you have to view life in a metaphysical manner. A true philosopher detaches himself completely from the social world. You still exist there. But this detachment creates an omniscience in you. It, for temporary moments, grants you an objective perspective. Normal people would refer to this as "it is what it is".
Completely vilifying other people is a very dangerous thing to do. Realize that these emotions are simply an expression of your lower natures and your interpretation of the social world and your place in it. But hear this, there is nothing wrong with feeling the way you do - you literally can't help it as these are your own experiences with the world. But you have to view life in a metaphysical manner. A true philosopher detaches himself completely from the social world. You still exist there. But this detachment creates an omniscience in you. It, for temporary moments, grants you an objective perspective. Normal people would refer to this as "it is what it is".
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OP you just need to learn that you are the only person who remembers any of it.
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the only thing you can do is be compassionate to people you see being cringe. break the cycle. you can't undo the past but you can save a soul.
>>249708
objectively false. i remember all of the cringe stuff other people do.
for example in 5th grade there was this kid named Sergio who always wore sweat pants. very poor. one day he straight up shit his pants and the shit was overflowing out the back. he left that day and we never saw him in class again, but we still talk about it today and we're 30+.
objectively false. i remember all of the cringe stuff other people do.
for example in 5th grade there was this kid named Sergio who always wore sweat pants. very poor. one day he straight up shit his pants and the shit was overflowing out the back. he left that day and we never saw him in class again, but we still talk about it today and we're 30+.
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>>249665
Personally what I do is reimagine the situation worse than what actually happened, which then makes the original situation not feel bad at all. Let's say there was an awkward situation, like I made a joke and nobody laughed and just looked at me. I imagine that that happened, but then I took a shit on the floor in front of everyone and then killed someone. It probably sounds retarded, but this is how I get rid of literally every embarrassing memory
Personally what I do is reimagine the situation worse than what actually happened, which then makes the original situation not feel bad at all. Let's say there was an awkward situation, like I made a joke and nobody laughed and just looked at me. I imagine that that happened, but then I took a shit on the floor in front of everyone and then killed someone. It probably sounds retarded, but this is how I get rid of literally every embarrassing memory
>>249665
This happens to everyone OP. Remember, all those cocksuckers who laughed at your cringey moments will be dead and dust in 100 years. So will you and many, many others. The next generations won't remember the people today in any reasonable capacity. There will be nothing left but the ashes of their bones.
This happens to everyone OP. Remember, all those cocksuckers who laughed at your cringey moments will be dead and dust in 100 years. So will you and many, many others. The next generations won't remember the people today in any reasonable capacity. There will be nothing left but the ashes of their bones.
>>249771
>we never saw him in class again, but we still talk about it today and we're 30+.
Who are you "you"?
>we never saw him in class again, but we still talk about it today and we're 30+.
Who are you "you"?
I did some embarrassing stuff but nothing with ever top the one thing that turned a group of nerd/losers on me, the last thing they said to me (10 years ago last grade of highschool) is that they hope I kill myself
I've learned to laugh at some of my cringey moments, though it's easy to say that when it happened years, decades ago with people that are probably dead by now. I can't cope with recent or relevant ones very well though. I usually just tell people I'm autistic and to please excuse me if I do something bad as I don't mean to cause anyone discomfort
>>249771
okay that is clearly an example that is so extreme people are gonna remember it
but that does not apply to every little thing we do on a daily basis that is embarrassing and haunts the memory for no good reason
okay that is clearly an example that is so extreme people are gonna remember it
but that does not apply to every little thing we do on a daily basis that is embarrassing and haunts the memory for no good reason
>>249665
I simply block them out. If you don't talk to those people who were involved in your 'cringe' moments, then those moments might as well have never existed. I do this for every traumatic experience that I've encountered, and so far it's been working. Although, fair warning, if you aren't very good at blocking memories out, or can't find a good way to distract yourself constantly, this won't work and you'll start to suffer again.
I simply block them out. If you don't talk to those people who were involved in your 'cringe' moments, then those moments might as well have never existed. I do this for every traumatic experience that I've encountered, and so far it's been working. Although, fair warning, if you aren't very good at blocking memories out, or can't find a good way to distract yourself constantly, this won't work and you'll start to suffer again.
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>>249665
alcohol, and compulsive lying
I just keep drinking until what actually happened and what mightve happened are undistinguishable mush of memories. coupled with constantly lying to myself and others I've lost nearly all touch of what has actually happened and things I've made up entirely either to quickly get out of a confrontation or to comfort myself
alcohol, and compulsive lying
I just keep drinking until what actually happened and what mightve happened are undistinguishable mush of memories. coupled with constantly lying to myself and others I've lost nearly all touch of what has actually happened and things I've made up entirely either to quickly get out of a confrontation or to comfort myself
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>>249665
the only way to cleanse your mind of embarrassing memories from the past is to go out and make new even more embarrassing memories
the only way to cleanse your mind of embarrassing memories from the past is to go out and make new even more embarrassing memories
Having more memories or simplify facing it. I've many cringe memories, but I tortured myself until not feeling nothing
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>>251760
You can do this but if you have many bad memories it may lead to a weak form of amnesia, due to gaping holes in your life story which mental blocks prevent you from fully recalling. It is not comfy knowing that you've forgotten most of the days you've lived through because there are so few worth remembering. You will wonder how you got to be so old and miserable with none of the markers that age supposedly brings, i.e worldliness or fulfilling memories.
And more importantly: you may blot out the images, sounds, places, names and faces which caused you anguish but once these surface-level associations are gone you'll still be left with the emotive core of the memory, or basically whatever unresolved trauma that's left its mark. It's like the salt left behind by evaporating water. Memory works by association rather than by some chronological ordering so you may become upset over seemingly harmless stimuli which is in fact triggering some long buried emotional trauma.
It is really up to you to decide if you want to be tormented by every little cringey thing you did non-stop, or if you enjoy being listless and despondent and having a not-quite-hollow feeling, with an inner life that is more or less dead and devoid of any reflective thoughts that might dredge up the past.
You can do this but if you have many bad memories it may lead to a weak form of amnesia, due to gaping holes in your life story which mental blocks prevent you from fully recalling. It is not comfy knowing that you've forgotten most of the days you've lived through because there are so few worth remembering. You will wonder how you got to be so old and miserable with none of the markers that age supposedly brings, i.e worldliness or fulfilling memories.
And more importantly: you may blot out the images, sounds, places, names and faces which caused you anguish but once these surface-level associations are gone you'll still be left with the emotive core of the memory, or basically whatever unresolved trauma that's left its mark. It's like the salt left behind by evaporating water. Memory works by association rather than by some chronological ordering so you may become upset over seemingly harmless stimuli which is in fact triggering some long buried emotional trauma.
It is really up to you to decide if you want to be tormented by every little cringey thing you did non-stop, or if you enjoy being listless and despondent and having a not-quite-hollow feeling, with an inner life that is more or less dead and devoid of any reflective thoughts that might dredge up the past.
god said he doesn't want you to dwell over your past sins. just admit you were wrong but will try to do better later, and move on. it's a sin in itself to dread over past sins.
that's the first and hopefully only time ive ever christposted on this site. it's just something that helped me a lot because i dealt with the same problem. it doesn't keep me awake at night anymore.
that's the first and hopefully only time ive ever christposted on this site. it's just something that helped me a lot because i dealt with the same problem. it doesn't keep me awake at night anymore.
>>253332
I think people who dwell on their past transgressions to an extreme extent are not doing so because they want to.
I think people who dwell on their past transgressions to an extreme extent are not doing so because they want to.
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>>253428
You don't "graduate" from schizophrenia anymore than you "graduate" from leukemia. It lets you go and then you live your life wondering when everything will fall apart again.
You don't "graduate" from schizophrenia anymore than you "graduate" from leukemia. It lets you go and then you live your life wondering when everything will fall apart again.
>>253332
what does god have to do with working towards
not dwelling over cringe moments?
your post is a sin because being retarded is a sin
what does god have to do with working towards
not dwelling over cringe moments?
your post is a sin because being retarded is a sin
i understand. what this ultimately comes down to imo, are deep-seated, misaligned value-attributions. meaning, your obsession for perfection, your prioritization of an arbitrary self-idealization, is to erase the weakness and flaws, to erase yourself, the person who can can see these things form the peak. at an unconscious level this will not do. as much as it seems like an empty hallmark platitude, you just have to stop caring. it doesnt matter if you werent chad in highschool, or if you fucked some relationship up. to want so desperately to be some disney movie character essentially, to the point of actually hurting yourself emotionally. you have to face yourself here. you have to grow up a little.
>>249776
You just posted/did one more cringe.
To not seem like a smug asshole I'll entertain you through the fact that I still remember having that one succubus specifically walk up and tell me I was disgusting after I mindlessly picked my nose and stuck my finger in my mouth when walking back in front of literally everyone in Sports class when I was <10 years old. Funniest thing is I just copied another kid that was doing it. Fuck you blake haha. I didn't kill anybody but seeing the snowball effect of it through my life I might as well at least have shat on the floor lol. Things haven't been the same since.
You just posted/did one more cringe.
To not seem like a smug asshole I'll entertain you through the fact that I still remember having that one succubus specifically walk up and tell me I was disgusting after I mindlessly picked my nose and stuck my finger in my mouth when walking back in front of literally everyone in Sports class when I was <10 years old. Funniest thing is I just copied another kid that was doing it. Fuck you blake haha. I didn't kill anybody but seeing the snowball effect of it through my life I might as well at least have shat on the floor lol. Things haven't been the same since.
This is some of the few things a shrink actually helped me with. I don't know the correct term for it.
You have to view the thoughts that enter your mind as something that floats down the river.
Observe them. Don't try to push it away or deny them. Acknowledge the thought, look at it, accept that it's there, then just let it pass by.
I'm not sure how to explain it, but I know what you mean. A bad thought or memory enters and your instinct is to instantly block it, but that just gives it more power.
Dunno if it makes any sense but try to keep this in mind and don't be afraid to acknowledge cringe thoughts and memories, takes months of practice.
You have to view the thoughts that enter your mind as something that floats down the river.
Observe them. Don't try to push it away or deny them. Acknowledge the thought, look at it, accept that it's there, then just let it pass by.
I'm not sure how to explain it, but I know what you mean. A bad thought or memory enters and your instinct is to instantly block it, but that just gives it more power.
Dunno if it makes any sense but try to keep this in mind and don't be afraid to acknowledge cringe thoughts and memories, takes months of practice.
>>253553
>…You have to view the thoughts that enter your mind
Not to derail the effort, but IMO "cringe" is emotional flashback, which is not exactly (just) a thought like mental/verbal construction, but bodily reaction, including bodily tension and breathing pattern of some kind
>…You have to view the thoughts that enter your mind
Not to derail the effort, but IMO "cringe" is emotional flashback, which is not exactly (just) a thought like mental/verbal construction, but bodily reaction, including bodily tension and breathing pattern of some kind
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The only thing we can do is embrace the cringe.
>>253584
Kill everyone who uses "cringe" as an adjective instead of a verb, kill you and kill everyone below the age of 18, just kill em
Kill everyone who uses "cringe" as an adjective instead of a verb, kill you and kill everyone below the age of 18, just kill em
Don't try to kill the part of yourself that is cringe, kill the part of yourself that cringes
>>253663
To not conform to the rules other place on you, even when you have internalized those rules. It’s good advice, but very hard to follow. It takes tremendous willpower to remove the indoctrination on your head. It’s why the mentally ill often act on impulse and without inhibition, they can easily ignore their conditioning.
To not conform to the rules other place on you, even when you have internalized those rules. It’s good advice, but very hard to follow. It takes tremendous willpower to remove the indoctrination on your head. It’s why the mentally ill often act on impulse and without inhibition, they can easily ignore their conditioning.
>>253663
>what does it actually mean to be truthful to your cringe self?
My take will be that it is only for YOU to find out. Any outside answer will be newer truthful enough
>what does it actually mean to be truthful to your cringe self?
My take will be that it is only for YOU to find out. Any outside answer will be newer truthful enough
>>253668
It’s only self deprecation to us. Cringe doesn’t mean anything to whatever 14 year old made that image.
It’s only self deprecation to us. Cringe doesn’t mean anything to whatever 14 year old made that image.
>>249665
'Cringe' is a verb, retard.
None of the reprobates responding to this thread with anything other than immediate dismissal of OP are wizards.
'Cringe' is a verb, retard.
None of the reprobates responding to this thread with anything other than immediate dismissal of OP are wizards.
>>253714
It is called cringe because it means “things that make you cringe”. Why are you butthurt about it? Cause all the kiddies use say it?
It is called cringe because it means “things that make you cringe”. Why are you butthurt about it? Cause all the kiddies use say it?
>>253720
No it isn't. If something "makes you cringe", then 'cringe-worthy' or 'cringy/cringey' are adjectives that convey that.
'Cringe' is not an adjective, so it cannot be used to mean "things that make you cringe".
If you want to type like a toddler then websites like Twitter were intended for that specific purpose, return to there.
No it isn't. If something "makes you cringe", then 'cringe-worthy' or 'cringy/cringey' are adjectives that convey that.
'Cringe' is not an adjective, so it cannot be used to mean "things that make you cringe".
If you want to type like a toddler then websites like Twitter were intended for that specific purpose, return to there.
>>253818
Slang changes, it’s the way it is. You crying about it does nothing. I used to care too, but it’s not a battle you will win.
Slang changes, it’s the way it is. You crying about it does nothing. I used to care too, but it’s not a battle you will win.
>>253819
'Cringe' isn't slang, nor did it change. You have no understanding of lexical categories.
You never cared either; you're impressionable and easily moulded, a far cry from anyone with any sort of commitment towards their values.
'Cringe' isn't slang, nor did it change. You have no understanding of lexical categories.
You never cared either; you're impressionable and easily moulded, a far cry from anyone with any sort of commitment towards their values.
My most embarrassing school moment was making a fart noise with my arm cuz i was bored and wanted to go home, and everyone thought I actually farted. Farkin cunts
>>253831
My most embarrassing moment was starting to cry when giving a speech in english class.
My most embarrassing moment was starting to cry when giving a speech in english class.
I have so many embarassing moments from my past it makes me want to seppuku. Forget about your english class I was doing well to not burst into tears just on the ride to school every morning and keep it together another day. It doesn't ever stop but it does get easier with age as the memories slowly fade away.