fear of keeping up?

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[–] fear of keeping up? Anonymage 04/03/25 (Thu) 16:54:19 No.299408>>299409 >>299410 >>299411[Watch Thread]

I've heard a lot about "fear of missing out"/"fomo". But I have a different kind of fear that doesn't really make sense in my mind: a fear of keeping up with things, or, a fear of catching up.

For example: Many years ago I played internet mahjong a lot. But eventually I stopped playing for a few months. Now, any time I consider playing again, I get paralyzed by this irrational fear. I think things like "it's too late for me to get back into this". And, of course, the fact that this fear stops me from catching back up only makes this fear grow larger and larger.

I once had a small youtube channel but it has been so many years since I uploaded anything, I feel like "it's too late for this, I missed the boat, what's done is done".

I know this fear is irrational but I still am held back it.
Does anyone relate to this fear AT ALL?
I am bad at describing this so this might not make any sense at all.

[–] Anonymage 04/03/25 (Thu) 17:14:05 No.299409

>>299408 (OP)
isnt that basically just being lazy and procrastinating?

[–] Anonymage 04/03/25 (Thu) 17:15:02 No.299410

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>>299408 (OP)
I relate OP, it feels like you could have done all the things you want to do at younger age and now you feel like it is a waste of time because your not young anymore, why even try I'll die soon? your brain is saying, and you agree with your brain, then you procrastinate. its a unhealthy habit brcause at the end of the day you do nothing and you wasted your day doing nothing.
the only thing is to start NOW and tomorrow and then the day after, etc…its like bycicle, if you stop treadle you fall.

[–] Anonymage 04/03/25 (Thu) 18:03:23 No.299411

>>299408 (OP)
>"it's too late for me to get back into this"
We (and by that I mean you) can dissect these thoughts for their origin and why they hold so much sway on you. It's a good mental exercise.

It usually goes like this for me.
>Want to play 'jong?
Y/N. If you want to, what stops you?
>Its too late
Late for what?
>Im XX old KHV I should be doing whateverwhatever
What this had to do with wanting to play 'jong?

[–] Anonymage 04/03/25 (Thu) 19:14:11 No.299412

This sounds a like straight up clinical depression.

If you've incidentally trained yourself not to enjoy things in general, then the sense of post enjoyment comedown might have further conditioned you to avoid things you specifically liked in the past.

I've experienced this once or twice with anime - specifically ones that I really enjoyed, the idea of experiencing them again and having them retroactively ruined or devalued means I don't watch them.

If what you enjoyed has little in the way of intrinsic value (i.e. enjoying it has extra benefits like exercising the mind or producing artefacts you take pride in) then if you're in full depression mode you'll need extra motivation to attempt it.

In some cases, getting back into the habit is just a case of perseverance, but it's not guaranteed.

[–] Anonymage 04/04/25 (Fri) 07:51:09 No.299425

I find it difficult to relate to your particular fear.

In general, if something seems like an irrational fear, i'd advise to really deeply consider if it is actually irrational. Try to make a clear-cut judgement. If it still seems irrational then you should try to overcome it by intentionally confronting it. That is, to simply do the feared activities for a while until you know you aren't hindered by it. If you still feel the fear but you have proved to yourself that you are in control of it then its fine, you just have to accept the feeling

/dep/ - Depression★

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