/dep/ - Depression

Stop believing that you need friends for any reason.

Discord servers usually have already esteblished cliques, so it's harder to break through in them.

If the chat room isn't ancillary to something I enjoy doing like watching movies or playing video games, I wouldn't bother unless you actually like reading what they talk about. Otherwise most chatrooms I've been in are ego stroking.

Servers always have

1.troons
2. crabs
3. Zoomers
4. Bpd sluts

>>301325
I'm not even joking here but your solution is simply AI. Just get a reasonable AI like ChatGPT and custom instruct it to act like a person. Alternatively get character.ai or a similiar AI that simulates chats and voice calls and you will see that the social craving you have is easily met without needing to interact with retards online. You really don't need to interact with actual people anymore if you just want to have a chat.

>>301353
>Bpd sluts
They always try to get attention by talking about dick, pussy and cum acting like hypersexual nymphos while rotting in their bedrooms like everyone else. They are also prone to get sucked into the latest political trends that are popular with dumbass succubi.

>Zoomers
Zoomers are everywhere especially on discord and zoomer slang has also established itself even with most millennials.

>Troons
It's always the types who are not even attractive looking and they are always deep into extreme leftist views. They take weird stances like defending Muslims despite the prosecution of homosexuals in Islam. It's never the attractive gay people and trannies but just the bottom of the barrel losers.

>crabs
Crabs and Andrew Tate types who always talk about succubi despite hating them. Usually its some angry guy in a voice channel who complains all day.

>>301431
I like to put my earbuds in and just talk to chatgpt on voice mode for hours. I'm not sure how good it is without a subscription but it really is satisfying to have long discussions with it and if you know how to instruct it you won't get basic replies either. Since the spring update you can also literally talk about almost anything even sexually explicit stuff. It has good voices to choose from as well but the 'advanced' voice mode kinda sucks because it's still too safe and virtual assistant like since it runs on its own model. Just stick to regular voice which runs on the same models as in text based chat.

I also tried joining a few discord servers related to my interests. With no success because of stuff like this >>301328
Usually there is only a handful of active, well integrated users. It feels like intruding on a group of friends' private chat. That, or there's like a local celebrity that everyone is supposed to praise, and being on such a server is pointless I.M.O
Oh yeah and this >>301349
People rarely chat about the actual topic of the discord server. You're lucky if they talk about something even remotely related, like the newest piece of merch they bought. Most of the time they talk about their personal affairs.

>>301325
>Any tips to help stop this dilemma?
I'd say just be yourself, that's the only way to let people like the real you and not some persona you put up to meet people's expectations. But then I don't have much of a personality and am super boring and socially awkward most of the time, so I know how hard it is to even come up with something to say, anything at all. So I guess it's best to just give up on socialization.

>>301453
>But then I don't have much of a personality and am super boring and socially awkward most of the time, so I know how hard it is to even come up with something to say, anything at all. So I guess it's best to just give up on socialization.
Same conclusion that I came to as well. People like us are just not cut out for socializing. We might function well in sole discussions but anything that taps into socializing such as small talk or banter is a dead end for us. It could also be that you're not actually interested in social stuff as much as you think, for socialized people it's usually about exchanging attention, validation and things like that but if you lack that drive then you won't see the point in it either. The key might be to just find drive in solitude without becoming a rabid consumer or mentally crippled loner, find whatever you're craving in yourself and not other people. 99% of social stuff is just vapor and noise anyway.

Sorry to vent but I just found out my discord friend hung himself today. I'm having a really hard time dealing with, I thought he was offline a few months due to being busy or something but then I got worried and start scavenging information that he shared and found out he hung himself. Do I try contacting his family for condolences? I'm not really sure what to do in this situation.

>>301507
>I'm not really sure what to do in this situation.
You can find out the names and addresses of the other Discord users who convinced him that suicide was the answer. You can then decapitate those people in front of their own parents. But of course, you're the kind of child who believes he must apologize for making an on-topic post on an imageboard, so the only thing YOU can truly do in this situation is wallow alone in your own pity. You're a horrible friend.

>>301508
I don't think anyone told him to kill himself. Dude was just a likeable guy who was having a bad break up a month before death

First, Is better try to make friends irl not on a discord server.
And about the other thing, you should not worried about it. You're not gonna lost nothing if you mess up

>>301659
>make friends irl
where do u think u are normie

>>301668
>normie
This entire thread is suspect normalfag.

>>301325
There are no good discord servers available publicly, and you won't know enough people or be cool enough to be invited to the good, private ones.

Very few people online are worth meeting. I consider wizchan basically the only place worth going to to talk to people nowadays. I tried dozens of discord servers, and I found one (1) that was good out of sheer luck. It's not advertised everywhere with like ~7 active members, and the only way you'd get in was if you were around during a singular 4chan thread years ago. We're a clique at this point, from a sheer diceroll.

Don't try to force it, just let it happen. And for god's sake, don't use disboard or any other awful server aggregation websites.

>>301697
I sometimes visit deek.chat even doe they all be furries an normies ig

whats wrong with imageboards and doing things by yourself

what's that?

"Disco R&D"?

>>301697
this


thats why you won't find a good t'gram channel either

>>301325
Try retro forums


Try asking chatGPT for a nichevtopic forum


Try fragrantica.com/fragrantica.ru/fragrantica.it and so on forums (perfume topics and such)



try 76chan.org

>>301325
I mean, hell, you managed to type up this post, that's a solid start. I don't even really fuck with discord other than to talk to family mainly. Truth is, I always found most people talking in these servers off-putting or too overly social for my liking. It's hard for me to even make posts here let alone comment because half the time I just say what's the fucking point lol. Friends and social interactions were always more of a plus to my life, rather something I needed.

I've always wanted to join an online community but I'd probably get bullied anyway.

>>302412
Don't join one. It never ends well and online friends aren't real.

>>302412
Aaaaand that's why 4chong is successful.

Everyone bullies everyone approach kinda makes the pain of being cyberbullied a game.

Dunno its sorta same. I sometimes go on /soc/ to see if there are people sorta like me but in the end i always ask myself, what am i actually going to do with this person, and do i really need them in my life.
Its always "No", so because i only talk to two people on there i can reach with other methods im deleting this thing.
There is no honor in having online 'friends' i guess. I literately don't see the reason.
So OP, stop caring i guess.

>>302451
>Everyone bullies everyone approach kinda makes the pain of being cyberbullied a game.
With the new online verification laws like the KOSA and the OSA, we expect you to have to come out and self-identify enthusiastically. Everything you post online will be associated with you legal entity and credit score.

The new laws will be implemented as quickly and effectively as possible to enable users to benefit from its protections.

Everything will be applied proportionally with our trusted employees reading through your comments so there will be no cyberbullying.

We keep you safe.

>>302454
>Everything you post online will be associated with you legal entity and credit score.
Smart people will just proxy to some shithole and use IRC again.
I love this future actually.

If it's getting to you, get help. Therapists can help unpack things and give an alternative perspective.