No.217989
>>217988The solution is right in front of you, both in the wiki link and from your use of the term "Īrṣyā". Buddhism is basically the practice of removing this, and removing desire in general (as they teach that desire is the cause of all suffering).
No.217990
>>217989>they teach that desire is the cause of all sufferingSuch a stupid philosophy
No.217995
you do struggle against desires that's how. check out dep there are some quotes there already
No.218003
>>218002you do a good job of making me feel stupid! i appreciate your skill honestly
No.219778
>>218002Is there any podcasts/interiews with him i must listen to?
No.219782
I think it's pretty much as you say, we're all on different paths. You have to come to terms with the fact that not everything in life is granted or possible to everybody. My disposition made it so that I spent my teens inside playing games and watching anime instead of seeking interaction with peers. Then later in higher education, it took me about twice as long as 'normal people' to finish my degree because I couldn't handle a full course load. Feeling bad about it won't change anything. Wishing it was different will only make the pain worse. It's probably about detachment and acceptance.
No.221356
>>217988 philosophical detachment
No.221359
The way past such feelings is to find something about yourself to be proud of.
Be that something you are doing/done, some positive aspect about yourself, or something you have obtained through great trial and tribulations.
When you have shit about yourself that you like and reasons you like your life, other people's shit doesn't matter as much.
No.221360
>>219782Damn wizzie that really spoke to me. I'm still in higher education at 26 and will still need another 1.5 years to finish my bachelor's due to mental issues. I've been doing better recently with the constant comparison, I keep telling myself that my best is all I can give and if that means graduating way later than my peers or only being capable of tiny, gradual change than it is what it is. As you say, there's no point beating yourself up over it. If anything those negative feelings will prevent you from moving forward and enacting what little steps you are capable of.
No.221370
I can't get over it either, I will add 'emasculation' to it as well. See OP, in my personal life, I have been obsessed with cars and growing up and realising that I can't parallel park or drive in the night time without being blinded has broke me. Not only has it ended the man within me, seeing teenage succubi do what I can't do is pretty emasculating. It's even more painful because I have been driving for years and almost daily.
And then there's the other thing too, I don't live in a country like Germany so getting a licence where I live is pretty easy. However, I have such a weird OCD that I am obsessed with perfection, I have no plans to ever leave my country, (although I would like to travel to the West and see how things are there, and return back because people of my race are widely hated) but I find myself constantly worrying about whether I would be able to get a German Licence or not, I don't know why I even think about it all the time, my OCD-ridden brain can't stop me from thinking about this. Some of my close "friends" think I am crazy because I constantly keep talking about parallel parking and driving at night.
Anyways, coming back to your topic on dealing with irshya (as we call it in Hindi), well I am not good at it either, but I try to think of it with regards to determinism. Your life and you are shaped by your genetics, environment, and circumstances so there isn't much that you could do, you had no choice either way, whatever is happening is bound to happen, I truly believe we don't have a choice. Now, I am not trying to justify crimes or inaction by individuals but that's how it is. We can believe in determinism in our hearts but act like we have free will. As to regain some sense of agency, albeit false. BTW while I am an Hindu Atheist, some religious Hindu Books imo have better cures than Buddhist doctrines, but then again even the so called cures in Hindu Books aren't perfect or applicable to modern world either.