GETTING RID OF FANTASIES AND DAYDREAMING

Email	Spoiler Image
Comment
File
Embed
Password	(For file deletion.)

File: 1725967514425.jpg (142.2 KB, 960x1280, 3:4, photo_2024-09-06_20-55-13.jpg) ImgOps iqdb

GETTING RID OF FANTASIES AND DAYDREAMING Anonymage 09/10/24 (Tue) 11:25:14 No.219187

When I was a teenager I only had few friends at school and would lose them in the summer because I'd never go out with anyone and wouldn't socialize with anyone If I didn't have to(school, classes).
I'd never get anything out of social interactions, they were fun from time to time but I'd get more fun and fulfilling time on my own and I was really happy living like that.
Then for some reason when I got extremely depressed I got this desire that I had to form a special bond and deep emotional connection with someone.
I have a weird and romanticized view of love and friendship so I began looking for people that I can form that bond with, people with traumatic childhood, outcasts, people that are odd in some way.
It's been 5 years and this shit doesn't work, even when I found someone that fits the criteria it just ends up being underwhelming or me being their emotional punching bag while they don't really take it seriously or put any effort into it at all.
I'm a NEET and money's not a problem so I can live pretty well without ever need to work.
But these thoughts and fantasies about finding someone is just torturing me because I know I can be happier without them and most importantly they're not achievable.
Can anyone help me out with this? How can I get rid of them once and for all and going back to what I was before?

Anonymage 09/10/24 (Tue) 21:16:24 No.219193

>Then for some reason when I got extremely depressed I got this desire that I had to form a special bond and deep emotional connection with someone.
I have a weird and romanticized view of love and friendship so I began looking for people that I can form that bond with, people with traumatic childhood, outcasts, people that are odd in some way.
It's been 5 years and this shit doesn't work, even when I found someone that fits the criteria it just ends up being underwhelming or me being their emotional punching bag while they don't really take it seriously or put any effort into it at all.

Check you Human Design aura. Seriously.
And spit that desire into its face. Show yourself openly as if your insides had the opposite passion instead of wanting a bond of any kind, it healed me.

Anonymage 09/11/24 (Wed) 04:17:35 No.219195

>>219187
all the same as you

Anonymage 09/11/24 (Wed) 08:41:41 No.219196

>>219193
>Check you Human Design aura
I got a 6/2 generator, the hermit part rings true but the role model part is mostly false, I don't like to be the center of attention at all and I don't see myself as a leader/mentor I just see myself as a listener.
>And spit that desire into its face.
I'm planning to delete my telegram account, that's the only place where I talk to people, hopefully that'll work.
>>219195
Ouch! I hope you can find inner peace, anon.

Anonymage 09/11/24 (Wed) 19:12:46 No.219208

>>219196
Ah, generator! Now I understand why some of you here were saying "neeting is making my soul rot" and likely stuff. No wonder…

>I don't like to be the center of attention at all and I don't see myself as a leader/mentor I just see myself as a listener.

Well, no need to. I have read many books without even caring about what face had their already deceased writers

Anonymage 09/11/24 (Wed) 19:22:03 No.219210

>>219208
I love neeting, If I overcome this I'll dedicate my whole life to maximize my happiness as a neet, promise!

Anonymage 11/11/24 (Mon) 05:53:11 No.220171

I'm scarred for life from thinking outcast chan-types can make good friends. The deeper the bond, the harder they'll try to crush you if things go south, and a lot can go south when people have unresolved trauma. Losing the habit for self-reliance and being eaten up inside with resentment weren't worth the few months of friendship I got out of it.