>>219897No, what I am saying is to associate your experiences with what actually happened. If someone treated you poorly then that person treated you poorly. That is the objective truth here. Call that person a piece of shit and hate them all you want. The dangerous part comes in when you take that experience to craft some fake person to hate and then project that fake person on every female you see.
>substitute it with some idealized notion handed to me by someone elseAll notions of other people are handed to you by someone else. That tends to be how this type of overgeneralization works.
I am asking you to take the wizardly route and transend all this bullshit. Just abandon any notion, good or bad. Don't make up some hypothetical succubus to get mad at. Literally wasting your energy on fantasies that just piss you off. Like I said earlier, use that energy to call the very real people who involved with your very real experiences a piece of shit, get over it and then be at peace with your wizardly self.