>>300537>I'm already pretty good at suppressing my emotions like thatdon't think of it as suppressing emotions, just observe them.
>but the problem is I just stand there like a retard with nothing to saywho in you feels a need to say something?
observe your silence and the need as well.
>what now? continue staring blankly in space?if you have something to say, then say it. but don't say it as an emotional reaction. say it consciously, like you mean it.
additional optinal safeguards: say only things that are kind, useful, needed, appropriately timed. this ensures that it will not be emotionally charged.
if you don't have something to say, then continue observing.
you'll find that being silent is not the end of the world.
>but they do take jabs and wait for my reaction in silencethere you go, they want your EMOTIONAL reaction.
don't give it to them.
if you don't have something you feel is needed to be said (that is true and useful), then do not let them coax something out of you that you do not mean.
>>300539>do you have an example of YOU in a situation and what was your reaction, like you describe to us or you acted differently?sometimes, people ask me questions that i know are not asked because they require an answer.
example:
>wiz, did you finish all the work items like we planned?(we did not plan this, they planned it. i explicitly said that it will take me till xth of june.)
the content of my reply is TRIVIAL. it does not matter what i reply.
unfortunately, i reacted emotionally here.
>i did not finish all the work items. like i said on wednesday, it will probably take me till xth of june.the "like i said on wednesday" was emotionally charged.
whatever you say that is emotionally charged, is ripe for the picking.
what they say can now make your balloon pop.
the person tried to shake this fact of me having said it or it having any relevance, and it hurt and got me even more emotional.