I've been thinking about how I blame my parents for my lot in life. And yet at the same time the normie answer would be "you're a grown adult man, stop being a crying snowflake, and take responsibility for your own life". 51 posts and 11 image replies omitted. Click reply to view.
Its a weird philosophical conundrum how we are individuals with our own personality, character, free will, and yet we are just robotic products of our parents' nature and nurture.
Usually we focus on the genetic determinism aspect of parents. How we are just robots for their selfish genes. But even if we look at the nurture and environmental side. Who does the nurturing? Who picks the socioeconomic environment for us? You look at the schools you go to, the values you are raised with, the quality of the neighborhood, your religion or lack of it. All choices of the parents. So basically all your environmental factors up to at least your teens and maybe beyond are the choice of your parents.
And yet society doesn't look kindly on a 30 year old man who says he can't function because he got dealt a bad hand from his parents.
To me it seems like life is mostly set in the genes. And to the extent there is an environmental influence at all that was also picked by the parents.
I don't relate to normies who are so loyal to their genes, and feel their purpose in life is to spread them. They don't feel like my property. To me it feels like my genes belong to my parents and I don't want to look out for them. My DNA has brought me nothing but misery. I look on my DNA as the enemy.
But of course there are many examples of children very different from their parents, who reject the values of their parents. Good parents with bad kids and vice versa.
Obviously parents can get very angry at their kids, especially when they are NEETing. And its not like they philosophically reflect "I'm just getting angry at my own nature and nurture"
Blaming your parents is regarded as bad, because it's easy to scapegoat them when you're unwilling to make improvements in your life. It is the same as blaming genes.
I'm not arguing that your upbringing and your genetics are not almost entirely responsible for your current state. They obviously are. However, maintaining the idea that they are entirely to blame puts you in a mindset where you're unwilling to make any improvements on your life, because you believe there is no way out. Your parents may have done some good things and you may have some latent intellectual abilities that just haven't been used to improve your life yet. Somebody with learned helplessness may realize that things could improve if they kept trying.
The main point is to continue strugglibf when it seems as though you are doomed by fate. You aren't necessarily doomed, even if that is how you perceive it.
>>157317>existence itself is the root cause of all evil and no single person can really be held responsible
truly scary shit
The blame is for all up until now. It includes all continued attempts to improve. Worthless improvement that it is.
>>157729>I often spent entire nights standing with a knife outside my biological parents bedroom debating intensely whether I should go in and kill them as they sleep for the unforgivable crime they committed by forcing me into existence
And this is another reason antinatalism is good. Imagine having a psycho that can kill you as a son a be killed while you sleep