>>219324Well, "cold approaches" are pointless. Everyone sees through it, is inured to the game. The rules are different for us, and everything they do is about emphasizing hypocrisy and social distinction. So, if you're antisocial, you're with the majority of humanity at this point. Most people do their job, go home to whatever they have, expect little out of life. I've been told some people appreciate that I don't pretend and they don't have to "front" as much with me. The people who make this is an issue are people I want to push away, so of course I play up antisocial behavior. They really hate it when I smile and try to have a social life of any sort. I've never been bawled out worse than when I was pretending to try and meet people, thinking that I could do so now. You'd think they'd bawl me out over actually bad things, but they don't believe in that. They punished me more growing up when I was doing well, because "retards aren't supposed to learn". Despite everything I had some happy demeanor when I could, despite it being beaten out of me by all of the humiliations. I didn't show it often because it wasn't allowed, but others would sometimes say hello to me.
One rule I learned - the "right of transgression" extends to who is allowed to say hello. I'm not allowed to say hello. It's a demonstration of social rank in this society, not a pleasantry. The proper greeting for inferior caste, if that is allowed, is to wave/raise your hand if you see someone, and say nothing, or do so in response. It is expected - entrained, even - that you respond silently to greetings, rather than cheerly reply as an equal.
Basically, every one of these rituals is about emphasizing the exact opposite of the golden rule. You're actually supposed to treat others like shit, in accord with their caste, and follow an imagined chain of command. Some are harder asses about it than others, with most people not caring that much - but the rules are established and they do not allow too many transgressions. While I've never been explicitly pulled aside and told this, I was given warnings to that effect, and told explicitly it is best that I not speak unless spoken to or have a pretext worth their attention. Ideally they want lower caste to be obsequious, fearful. Think of what they want a black man to act like - utterly servile and fearful of white men, and espeically fearful
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