/wiz/ - Wizardry

I need your wisdom. I am approaching mid 20s KHHV and have no friends. Went neet after high school for a few years because depression and loneliness broke me and maybe I had foresight that there was no point in going to college so I pretty much gave up on life because I felt like life gave up on me first. The only good things I got going for me are that I have a job now and I have good parents so there is no drama or uneasiness about being home which allows me to at least save up all the money I make while living with them. Apart from that I have no social life, no skills and I never matured because I simply did not have those experiences like my peers (going out, meeting people, making friends, socialising, romantic partners, sex etc.) This is why I was reluctant to go to college or do anything because anything that comes to mind imo requires a certain foundation of experience in order for you to be accepted and fit in and be able to progress or interact. The connections and social aspect is key to wellbeing, happiness and success. As I get older isolation, lost youth and ineptitude will hurt more and more as I see people around me progress. The thing is I don't know what to do with my life. Should I play it safe and just spend all my 20s and 30s living with my parents, working, saving money and rotting in my room? I feel like I am missing out on enjoying life but I have nobody and I am afraid that if I tried to force myself into relationships/friendships I will end up hurt, used and waste my money to participate in soceity that doesn't actually care about me. Keep in mind I am from a slavic shithole and not america. Also moving out and living on my own sounds like a bad idea because I am very inexperienced and I am not smart or skilled and it's almost impossible to even get a job if you are qualified if you don't have the connections. I don't have social media and I live in a small rural town and maybe this is an irational fear and I hope it is but I was always afraid of people bullying me or talking shit behind my back so I don't like opening up or revealing any information about myself because people talk and they can use any and all information against me in some way. Sorry if this is not directly related to crabdom but it's a more broad question on how to cope with beings a loser and how can you tell what kind of a loser you are (failed normie or truecel etc.) and what is realistic goal and expectation because expectations and goals set by media and Post too long. Click here to view the full text.

Hey I hate to be the guy who posts this kind of thing but I truly don't know where else to ask (tried 4chan, but I think most people won't care) I feel lost in life. I am undisciplined and rarely get things done. Most of my time I spend in my head, pondering over matters I cannot solve, yet failing to switch topics or get my head out of a thinking spiral. Maybe I lack the will to do so. I went over the self-help and psychology slop, but it all feels like a sham, a fad constantly trying to sell me more crap (just buy my book bro, just try my online course, just follow these ridiculous rules I made up). Perhaps I am foolish to think a book or a single piece of advice will help me, but I want to learn how to be a simpler man, a man of action, of less thought. Any literature or words of wisdom on the matter?

Volcels, what if?
What if you could have the perfect succubus?
>she would always love you no matter what
>she would never betray you
>she would never nag
>she would never test you
>she would never insult or mock you
>she would never do anything you wouldn't want her to
If you could have such a succubus, would you still refuse to have sex with her?

If you admit to wanting sex with her, I won't consider it breaking any rules because such a succubus does not exist, and it's a fantasy on the same level as a 2D waifu.

It’s easy to assume that more money, more stuff, and more status will make us happier. That’s what we’re sold every day—on social media, in ads, in the way we talk about success But is it actually true?

I’ve seen videos of small villages in Africa where people live with almost nothing—no Wi-Fi, no fancy houses, no designer anything. And yet they laugh. They sing. They dance in the streets. They seem genuinely joyful. Not because they have everything, but maybe because they don’t Then I look around at places like California, where people live in luxury condos, drive $200k cars, and eat at places that cost more than some families make in a week. And still, depression and anxiety are everywhere. Even some of the richest, most famous people in the world—people we think have it all—end up feeling so empty that they take their own lives So what’s going on? Why do people with "nothing" seem happy, and people with "everything" feel lost?
Maybe happiness isn’t about what you have Maybe it’s about how connected you are—to other people, to yourself, to the moment you’re in Maybe we’ve just been chasing the wrong things Just something I’ve been thinking about. Curious what you think, too.

How do you genuinely just stop caring about everything shitty in your life? I just want to become numb to it all. People always say you shouldn't, but whenever I let myself feel any small amount of happiness the feeling of sadness/depression that I'll inevitably feel later is so painful it makes me wish I just didn't feel anything at all in the first place. Meditation has gotten close to this and I like the peace it gives me but I wish I felt that peace all the time.

I figured I've already experienced everything junk food, chocolates, cakes and ice creams can offer as an experience.
They no longer give me dopamine, just bloating and an overall sense of unwellness & brain fog.

Life is very short and I'd like to be in shape even if just once during my existence. So far I lost 12 pounds, which is an okay start but not great.

I aim to work out 3 times a week, and on the 4 other days light cardio such as walking for an hour.

Diet has been redesigned to involve a lot of lean meat, fresh produce, eggs, walnuts and water instead of sodas.
If I crave something sweet, it's gonna be a banana or berries, maybe a kiwi or orange.

What do you think? Have you tried to live healthier or are you already healthy?
So far I haven't lost motivation but it's only been 6 months. I find it has had a moderately positive effect on my depression too. If I can pull it off I'll keep the rhythm up for the rest of my life.

How do I get rid of my desire to have children and to continue my lineage?

I’ve been able to eliminate my desire for succubi and stop fantasizing about romantic relationships but I still have a desire to be a father and at times daydream about having children to raise and play with.

I feel once I rid myself of this want I can truly be content with my existence as a solitary invisible man in this decaying world.

Hello guys. Sorry but i could not find any other good place to post this. But i found this image with a text "child, 02/09/2023 (february)". I dont know what is this. I am not a bot.

20, 10 and even 5 years ago being called a virgin was seen as an insult by normies. Same could be said about being called "a crab", yet more and more often we see people who have regular sex, gfs and social lives say "they are basically crabs". Is it for attention? Is it some misguided idea that crabism is a mindset? Is it to make yourself feel "superior" to other normies? Same thing have happened with nerds: what used to be a simple demographic, later became a label to proudly asign to yourself (Oh, I'm such a nerd, I just love watching mainstream movies like Star Wars!).

Is there a way to stop it, or just every term loses it's meaning after 5 or 10 years these days?

TL;DR AI got several points for me and I finally felt that the future is here! pleasant shiver


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''The question "aren't you lonely" is considered rude because it implies loneliness is a negative state to be avoided, when some people are content being alone, and it can feel like a judgment on the person's social life. It also ignores the important difference between being "alone" (physically by oneself) and being "lonely" (feeling isolated emotionally). The question assumes a lack of social interaction is undesirable, which can be an uncomfortable and presumptuous assumption to make about another person.
It's an assumption of negative feelings: The question assumes loneliness is a universally undesirable state. However, many people are happy and fulfilled when they are alone, finding it to be a valuable time for rest, self-reflection, and connection with their "true self".
It ignores the difference between alone and lonely: There is a significant difference between being alone and feeling lonely. Being alone is a physical state, while loneliness is an emotional response. The question conflates the two, failing to acknowledge that a person can be physically alone but not emotionally lonely.''
''It can be a judgment on one's social life: Asking "aren't you lonely" can feel like a direct criticism of a person's social choices or life circumstances, whether they are single, have a smaller group of friends, or simply choose to spend more time alone. It implies their social life is lacking and that they should feel sad about it.
It overlooks the quality of relationships: The question focuses on the quantity of social interaction rather than the quality. A person may have many friends but still feel lonely, or have very few friends but have deep, meaningful connections.''
It is often perceived as a judgment on life choices: The question is particularly pointed when it comes to lifestyle choices like being single. Many people prefer to be single than to be in a relationship that is unhealthy or unfulfilling.