>>204310>I've pretty much spent most of my adult life trying to undo my "parenting". Don't fool yourself, if you are on wizchan, your parent's fucked up somehow, either by being directly abusive or just not giving enough of a fuck about you or being ignorant of how to actually be a good parent. There's no point in blaming them, they'll never acknowledge it and even if they do, you're still stuck undoing their work. It's kinda funny when you think about it, how many people's childhoods can be viewed as two people's shitty "group project" that neither has interest in and each thinks the other will do all the work, until the deadline of adulthood comes near and each is disappointed that the project itself came out wrong somehow.
This is the worst part about lackluster upbringing. You as a child put your entire worth onto your parents values, and if they are not up for the task, they will most likely hinder external influences. That is, if a good teacher encourages exploration or a doctor mentions issues.
So your life takes a bad turn in one way or another, and to seek validation and affirmation, you naturally seek towards your parents which keeps pushing you in the wrong direction.
And then, somehow, somewhere, when you're an "adult" and unhappy, you're at fault, to blame, for being raised wrong.
It's like your parents build you a shitty car to partake in life and society. You get control of it, see it's somehow lackluster, and takes it out of the race to fix it. And you have no idea to fix it, so you have to learn from someone else how to fix it.
All the while your parents shame and comment on how you're falling behind and should probably drive faster.
As all analogies, it has its faults. Point being, your fundamental is broken at its core, but you have to use your fundamental to fix itself without joining a cult…..
It's the small things that wears on you. you can't point out one fault, one situation, one comment. But the overall experience is disregarded as putting blame on your shitty life as a 30 year old because your mother said one time that your feet made a slapping noise when walking up the stairs. It's bullying, and I don't get why they would do that. And why they would gaslight, and disregard how I experienced my life. It's like I not only turned out wrong, but I am living myPost too long. Click here to view the full text.