/dep/ - Depression★

>>297313
>We didn't fail, we got unlucky
Not really. It's all about action. Health choices, social experience, the company you keep, where you chose to stay. The most decisive factors are the ones we chose ourselves.

>How do you deal with being one of the sexless?
some losers cope with alcohol and other normalfaggot drugs.

I feel wretched. Some anon told me that you need to have sex to see it's nothing special. But I can't cope with it. I think about sex all of the time. I am horny 24/7.

I am thinking about taking antidepressants to kill my cock and libido.

>>298857
You are dripping with testosterone. Start working out. Become stronger for life. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

>>298858
I have high heart rate. It starts pounding even with 10 minutes of walking. And I have sleep apnea even though I am underweight. So I can't work out.

My life is hell.

I ran into the curb when parallel parking. He asked if I always drive this slow. Passed the exam. I was 22.
Driving is really hard because I have hundreds of times a day where a second "skips" and I'm unaware of what happens. Also about 10% of the time one of my eyes gets blurry and I have to close it to see out of the other one. I also have to use cruise control most of the time and drive barefoot to keep my feet from becoming numb. I keep at least 5 seconds between me and the guy ahead of me.

I'm 35 and also don't know how to drive.

>>298787
How do you survive?

>>297157
I asked my single mother for that favor and she spent an hour screaming and grabbing the fucking wheel while I was trying to follow her garbled instructions
Her dumbass moved across the country before I was born so there's zero family members or friends I could ask to teach me

>>297157
This is what I did. I learned in an empty parking lot at first.

The whole push for therapy as the silver bullet feels like something that's been popularized by well off redditors. They can afford to go from shrink to shrink because they were born well off enough to have the resources for it. Their mental issues don't inhibit them from going so it's really that easy.

"go to le therapy" is also a sort of passive aggressive phrase where you're told you're the problem with the pretence of care. If you push back they'll claim you're entitled and don't want to get better while purposefully ignoring your point. If they were really honest they'd just respond with "not my problem" because that's what it really is.

It's also telling that we have more shrinks, more research and more people going to therapy than ever before yet peoples mental seems to get worse and worse. Almost like we live in a world that's squeezing us for all the money and attention we've got.

I get the points of critique you mention but here in first world it literally costs zero '0' money to go to a therapist, to extend therapy or to hop to the next one. It's part of health care insurance system.

>>298828
Where? I lived in two different "highly developed" countries and they both would not come close to covering the full cost. For a 170 euro appointment the healthcare system would pay like 60 euros maybe, and that's under certain conditions like having a diagnosis etc

>>298829
german

>>298802
A Spanish succubus. I like the notion. This is very inspiring.

>>292925 (OP)
I realized young that the idealized relationship with other people is just that. An ideal.
Reality simply can not and does not provide it.

I don't lament it honestly. Just remember that for every moment where you feel any a connection with another you would have to endure the rest of the reality of whatever companionship you got going on.

I have one friend. This friend is on a very similar wavelength and we have shared most if not all of our troubles, both wizards (in a year), both dropped out of the same college etc.
Yet even with this guy who is basically the closest to me out of everyone I've ever known I don't feel that mythical connection I had in mind from fiction. Even when we are basically the same person at times.
I wouldn't call it brotherhood and as life progresses we are drifting apart as we get more and more isolated in our own bubbles.

I genuinely do not believe succubi are capable of love either. It's something men do, and the male writers of old have spread their fantasies in their stories. That is why we year for something fictional.

>>292925 (OP)
but you would be ashamed of admitting it to those succubi, wouldn't you? As buddhists say, desire is the gate for suffering. But you must learn that such tendency is just a mental parasite who must be destroyed and rejected, never dreamt about, that succubi are cruel and whimsical, that infatuation is just awfully channeled sexual energy.

As I told the other guy, stop cooming. If you can arouse yourself and still not let semen get out while nurturing your brain from the joy, that's a wizardly degree.

Embrace your shadow. Be sure you use it against those who deserve, for they certainly exist, and be discreet.

>>297133
>on social networks the succubi have many followers and people who send them messages in real life

Let us not fall for who does not fall for us. coomers and pussyworshippers are a legion of losers.

>>297028
>Talking to succubi, having sex, even finding a girlfriend, is not complicated, on the contrary it is quite simple, the complicated thing is keeping her and putting up with her stupidity.
this reads like it's coming from personal experience

>>297028
>you want to lead a quiet life alone.
nobody does and 99 percent of those who do are miserable or mentally ill and the isolation worsens their problems.

>>298119
I used to drive for a living, if you do the same shit every day it becomes like second nature, just do the same shit over and over again and your subconscious will automatically do it for you eventually

>>298129
I primarily drive two cars, a hatchback and a sedan. And I can't gauge distances in the rear using just side mirrors in both of them, so I thought that the problem is with me, the thing is both of my cars don't have a rear view camera or sensors, so I have to do it only visually, I can judge distances in the rear using side mirrors only when the disparity in distances are huge.

Like when I have to reverse let's say towards a bush/kerb in a parking lot, I generally stop 3.5feet away from the bush/kerb looking in the side mirror, any closer than that and I can't judge the distances accurately, and when there is a situation like this, the rear windshield is essentially useless and turning back doesn't help either.

And this is the problem that I described here >>298119 while making a u-turn and >>298014 while parallel parking.

>>298130
Well doing that in the case of the u-turn situation that I describe, the red car's hood dips below my door windows and the C-pillar get's in the way of view. And in the case of parallel parking the kerb is also below the car's door's windows so you have to rely on mirrors.

And the thing is, I believe that the parallel parking situation can't even be solved by rear cameras and sensors because it only helps to aid you in how far away you're from the car in the rear but doesn't tell you when to turn in such that you don't end up too far away from the kerb or on the kerb.

>>298131
I have the same problems but live in a city so there is no option for me but to learn.

>>298132
The things is I have been driving a lot for past 4 years, and I have gotten better at judging distances, like for example you can't see the tip of the hood/bonnet but now I know where it is because of experience over the last 4 years, but when it comes to the issues that I described, would you mind taking a read and suggesting some sort of remedy?Post too long. Click here to view the full text.

Cars way back in 2010s used to have auto-park feature, which could parallel park for you, why can't the government mandate it when so many people fail in parallel parking? And why didn't manufacturers work on it

It's like despite the bettering technologies, better cameras, better chips, faster hz displays, and everything else car manufacturers especially outside of China had rarely caught up.

We already had the technology to auto parallel park in 2010s (even in some low budget cars) by now it should've been even in all low budget cars and mandated like how US government mandated rear cameras, they should also mandate 6 sensors on the bumpers instead of usual 4.

I swear to god we already have the solutions to so many of these problems already but for some reason government and automakers refuse to put technology in cars.

Auto park would've solved 99% of the problems with parallel parking. But normies don't push for it for some reason.

>>298739
I have a car with rear cam and 4 sensors and it doesn't judge the corners like >>298119 you would unfortunately have to rely on mirror but this is such an edge case that doesn't happen in America where I live although I live in a small town. Or maybe that's just my car. Rear cams are mandated in the US by the way :)

>>298782
Indeed and this is the cause of all my problems, if I could just somehow manage to judge the distance in the red, using side mirrors, I believe I would be able to parallel park as well. But the reversing thing while taking a u-turn and the car behind is the hardest thing, I wonder why has no car maker every worked for a solution to this yet.

I have even tried practicing for this, by trying to back up in front of a fence, I could do so with some accuracy but when I try to back up towards a car, it's like I can't judge distance either I stop too far away or I straight up bump into them. And I have asked a lot of people about this and their response while honest but infuriating is "we can just judge it" and I am like how can you and why can't I?

>>297332 (OP)
Use betametasone and patience. Skin elasticity can be developed.

the solution I know for OCD is fuck it up so badly you cannot even know how to follow back the steps, or doing different stuff on purpose.

Betametasone.

Be sure you don't desperate for the coom like >>297335 our way is the opposite, or else!

>OCD: they need to do certain things (like rituals or checks) to feel "safe" or to prevent something bad from happening
When you do not identify your fears while also not developing real defenses against them, you may suffer this. Do not relax, identify the fear and go to cut it down. buy a fucking gun if necessary.

>>298497
I will try using this medication, I hope it won't be hard to buy. I also can't coom without holding my penis' head either. Which renders my fleshlight useless. It really does upset me that I bought this fleshlight and it's off no use.

>>298528
Remember it is a helper. Skin elasticity should be exercised along with it.

>And no money to fix tight foreskin and frenulum breve.

have you worked before? you can try gettin a job if it bothers you that much. You need to take a first step, then after you get enough money for your surgery you can quit your job

>>298757
Getting a job as a third worlder to manage finances in a way that your parents don't know is very hard. Nonetheless I am still in college I will try my best to get a job.

>>298637
Well he definitely rubbed it in my face, I was mistaken that he was my friend, he's just a pos and I overheard him tell someone that he said that to me to make me jealous so fuck him. I hope an elephant walks over him.

when i was at college, somebody saw me developing on my laptop, browsing wifis, and he created a wifi with name: why are you staring so angled, dick!

Clever, inslulting someone with wifi name

worst part

i dont know who that was, i never tried to make friends or enemies, but still, some people hate you just because you exist

>>297233 (OP)
>Global Rules
>Do not state or suggest that you had, will have or want to have sexual or romantic experiences.

>And hypothetically if I ever get sex, I probably won't be able to get it hard, and even if I do get it hard, I won't be able to cum cause of my tight foreskin, frenulum breve, and OCD.
>frenulum breve
what in hell is that

>>298752
Tight banjo string.

>it's haram.
"Wizlam" poster detected, thread discarded

>>298740
Web dev isn't a valuable skill to have, so employers don't value it. Anything you can self-learn in 10 years an Indian slum dweller working for 10x cheaper than you can do 10x better and faster.

Now C++ is a different beast. Most people with degrees in Computer Science suck hard at real programming which requires a very highly functioning mind in many aspects.
If you are self learned in C++ and have a good portfolio to back it up, you'll be snapped up at a high salary point with no job interview, no degree needed, just start working immediately.

There are only a couple thousand good programmers alive in most countries. Almost all are self-taught high IQ individuals.

>>298734
>you forgetting about trades? You don't need a college degree to lay patio stones or mount a TV to a wall. Cut this defeatist blackpilling, there are plenty of well-paying, self-relying jobs for men that don't require 6 years and $90,000 of college
It's all physical shit that I can't do.

>>298747
>It's all physical shit that I can't do.
yes you can.

>>298744
>Anything you can self-learn in 10 years an Indian slum dweller working for 10x cheaper than you can do 10x better and faster.
Man India must be such a amazing place, when the average Indian is this hardworking and self-sacrificing. How come they arn't a superpower yet?
>Web dev isn't a valuable skill to have, so employers don't value it.
sure if they are happy with ready made templates and wordpress sites. if you want to make anything unique you need web devs.
Or is this your way of saying the "no diploma" thing was just and excuse to not hire my friend?

Yes if you self-study software development of course you provide more valued. if that isn't your hobby or what you are passionate about, it becomes hard for you to motive yourself to study it. not to mention the entry barrier is higher, if you are a brainlet probability, statistics, linear algebra and discrete math will be an absolute nightmare. which is required to become one of those good programmers you mention. otherwise you a relegated to a code monkey, in which companies will also be super picky about. will probably also want a uni grad since they think they are of higher quality than a non-uni code monkey.

deranged post coming up, don't read if you're in sync with society

They hate us because we don't play along. One of the most common normie advice is "don't think, just act" or some other feely bullshit like that. Most car drivers have no idea how a car works, and they have no interest to find out, yet they have the ability to drive it. Those NPCs have the same attitude towards everything else about life - no desire to understand, only go with the flow. We on the other hand, tend to question, analyze and systematize. This "oblivious" vs "questioning" difference is the fundamental difference, and the reason why we might never get along. We ask too many questions, while normies hate it when questions shake their status quo.

>>298716
Einstein said he was in the highest flow state of his scientific career when he knew the least.

When he accumulated more and more knowledge, he came up with less and less working scientific theorems or solutions.

By all common logic, he should have been more successful and skilled when he aged and knew more.
But it ended up giving him total decision fatigue and paralysis.

In the end, his main texts surviving to this day are from the very beginning of his career when he barely understood the field and simply chose to challenge Isaac Newton in a series of three papers and it turned out he was right.

He went by pure intuition instead of *only* deep knowledge and fact, and he won.

Normies operate under the exact same principle, except with 100 times less knowledge than Einstein.
And they win because much of the time in life, winning is just the courage to challenge the current status quo in *some way*.
His involved pure scientific fact, a basic normie does it by creating a better product or idea than his peers.

In the case of normies, it's even easier than being Einstein. You don't have to *objectively* have a better product or idea, you just have to _convince_ people everyone is wrong except you. And if enough people believe you, you become successful.

>>296567 (OP)
>"you gotta pull yourself up by your bootstraps and make your life"
anyone who isn't where society think you should be, get to hear this!
even if you are a non-autist, very few people will actually try to help you! even family and extended family.
they expect you to help them, but when you ask them for help or are in a bad spot in life, most will either refuse to help or not do anything meaningful.
The number of people who have genuinely tried to help me is less than 10.
Whenever I falter in life, my "friends", extended family and family just berate me to do better.
Then pat themselves on their back like they did you a favor. Whenever I get sick of this and push back they act like am some ungrateful asshole.
>anon why don't you have a GF yet at the age of 30? arn't you ashamed? why don't you just get one?
>well then help me get one then, if you want me to have one so much! not gonna do it? then STFU!
>it's been three months since you got fired! how come you still don't have a job? Search harder!
>ask your employer if they can hire me otherwise shove it up your ass!
then they stare at me like it was something extremely ungrateful to say. like they expect me to be super grateful for them for telling me "just try harder bro". then they be like
>this is the last time I ever lecture/scold you
Good STFU so I don't have to hear you nag! The hatred for normies is completely justified. most of these normies didn't make it either, they work jobs they hate and you get to hear them whine about it at work, their partner cheated on them, their kids being unbearable, bitch about things they want but can't have. worst part is they don't make any attempt to fix their lives but have the gall to whale on you for not fixing yours. worst are the normies who tries to drag you down because can't stand someone getting their act together.

Autism isn't real. It's fake bullshit like everything that is churned out by psychology academic careerist faggots. Who the fuck determines what is the criteria for being "normal" on this planet? And what the fuck is "normal"? Who the fuck gave these retarded academics to play God?

Fuck them. Stop taking these meme illnesses seriously. There are designed to manipulate you to control like normalcattle. By putting a label then prison on in a fiction created by them.

>>298746
This makes sense, I can agree with this. Most people (at least on wizchan) who call themselves "autists" are really just nonconformists and free thinkers. "Not fitting" in society is really just denying to take the bullshit and lies that the mainstream asks of us in order for us to "succeed" in the normalfag game. This is a much better way of saying it than:

"You're not autistic if you don't act like a retard." This implies that the person is making it up, or playing the victim. Most "autists" on wizchan really do struggle because they refuse to take normie society's bullshit with a smile.