>>302649I would say to ask them if they have any guardianship or power of attorney set up for their estate already. In my own mother's case, she hadn't done that, so it had to be taken before a civil tribunal to settle. This in my case is a headache, as I'm not currently on the lease of my mother's home at the moment and could be made homeless, where the only person who could sign my name on the lease is someone who isn't fit to sign any legal documents. So it was necessary for me toward that end.
If they do, then it saves you the headache of having to sort all that out. If you are given power of attorney, you'll likely have to take a list of all assets and debts of a person to coincide with your appointment. And depending on where you live, you'll have to re-report this every X amount of months. Aside from the usual thing of doing things in line with your parents wishes.
I would also open another bank account to scrounge any extra money, or just start saving a little extra than usual. Even if you live in a country where healthcare might be free, things like retirement homes do cost money for placement. Its just a good thing to have extra money, even if they've got life insurance set up.
You should prepare yourself mentally for the potential of people to try and take advantage of situations like that too. I have my sister, and she's an outlier as far as behaviour goes, but its more common than you think for distant family members to suddenly come back into people's lives when they're right at the end to try to gain something from it. It can be blatantly selfish but don't lose your cool. Try to pace yourself as well, in general. I don't think its possible to NOT burnout if you're visiting the hospital constantly. Any family who you can trust and rely on, those without the expectation of receiving something in return, have them in your corner all throughout.
Above all, have the courage to tell the people in your life who you love and cherish how much they mean to you BEFORE something like this happens. In retrospect, I was always put off of expressing myself; nervousness, anxiety, just an overbearing shyness I had. But being put in a position where you may not get to tell them is a genuine horror more than any speculative embarrassment. I had gripes with my mother too for years, but I've come to realize they were selfish and sho
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