Mom collapsed after a short illness, heart failure. I didn't see it happen and would have freaked out if it did. There was nothing that would have saved her. Doctors would have rushed her away because she was poor.
Tbh I didn't feel anything. It's wrong and she deserved better than this.
As far as settling final affairs, that depends on whether a will was written or not. You're going to have to deal with probate if you want your parents stuff unless they left it to you specifically, and a lot of parents do not leave wills because they're dying before they were meant to. The basic stuff is to file a claim on life insurance if they had any - this is how funerals are usually paid for, or a prepaid plan. It helps to ask your parents what the plan is. The thing with us is that our parents universally hate us and despise us so much that they refuse to tell us anything about how these things are actually done. My brother took care of most of the stuff. It gets more complicated if family will contest the will (and this is one reason we are left out, because often we're not really considered human and they don't want us butting into probate).
I have to warn you wizbro, trust no one. You might think there's a process to this, but everything turns into a struggle when money and property are on the line, and we're set up to lose that struggle every time. Even if you know what to do, being invalid creates a shame that others use to bully you out of doing things that should be simple. But in short, first thing you have to do is figure out the money and insurance claims, if there is a will, take care of bills if you plan to live in their house. Whatever your feelings or your psychological state, you have to take care of basic things first, and no one is going to think you're evil for doing that. It's expected.
I didn't care what others thought about my feelings, and I don't think they paid much attention to me. I did look up the bills for the house and realized I could continue living alone, and so I did that, and no one is arguing against my living in the house, nor could they. If you're a tenant you're going to have rights over other claimants to the house as far as living there, and even if you're invalid, you can defend yourself if it goes to probate. Usually families have the sense to not start shit about kicking you out, because a court will take your side if you were the tenant even if you're invalid. Some people will do shitty Post too long. Click here to view the full text.